Basic Dining Etiquette

Basic Dining Etiquette

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Invitation

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Invitation

Basic Dining Etiquette - Getting Seated

Basic Dining Etiquette - Getting Seated

Basic Dining Etiquette - Table Taboos

Basic Dining Etiquette - Table Taboos

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Place Setting

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Place Setting

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Napkin

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Napkin

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using Utensils

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using Utensils

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Glass Ware

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Glass Ware

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Bread and Condiments

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Bread and Condiments

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Soup Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Soup Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Salad Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Salad Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Main Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Main Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using a Finger Bowl

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using a Finger Bowl

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Dessert and Coffee

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Dessert and Coffee

Basic Dining Etiquette - Eating Difficult Foods

Basic Dining Etiquette - Eating Difficult Foods

Basic Dining Etiquette - Tips for the Toast

Basic Dining Etiquette - Tips for the Toast

Dining Etiquette For Beginners

Dining Etiquette For Beginners

How should I respond to gifts of condolence that I or my family receives?

How should I respond to gifts of condolence that I or my family receives?

What is an appropriate gift for a friend or neighbor who has lost a loved one?

What is an appropriate gift for a friend or neighbor who has lost a loved one?

If I am an overnight guest in someone's home, should I bring a gift?

If I am an overnight guest in someone's home, should I bring a gift?

If I am invited to dinner in someone's home, should I bring a gift and what are some appropriate gifts?

If I am invited to dinner in someone's home, should I bring a gift and what are some appropriate gifts?

Are their taboos in selecting a baby gift?

Are their taboos in selecting a baby gift?

What are the best baby gifts?

What are the best baby gifts?

When must I give a baby gift?

When must I give a baby gift?

What if the bridal couple requests money instead of gifts?

What if the bridal couple requests money instead of gifts?

Am I obligated to select a gift from the bridal couple's wedding registry?

Am I obligated to select a gift from the bridal couple's wedding registry?

If I receive a wedding announcement but was not invited to the wedding, must I give a wedding gift?

If I receive a wedding announcement but was not invited to the wedding, must I give a wedding gift?

When is the best time to give a wedding gift?

When is the best time to give a wedding gift?

Do I have to give a gift for both a wedding shower and a wedding?

Do I have to give a gift for both a wedding shower and a wedding?

What are the gift guidelines for wedding showers?

What are the gift guidelines for wedding showers?

When a couple I know announces their engagement, do I need to send a gift?

When a couple I know announces their engagement, do I need to send a gift?

What should I avoid when selecting gifts for friends or relatives?

What should I avoid when selecting gifts for friends or relatives?

What are some tips regarding gift giving with friends and family?

What are some tips regarding gift giving with friends and family?

What should I think about before selecting a gift for a boyfriend or girlfriend?

What should I think about before selecting a gift for a boyfriend or girlfriend?

What are some appropriate gifts for someone whom I have dated for a short period of time?

What are some appropriate gifts for someone whom I have dated for a short period of time?

If I have dated someone for a short time, when should I give a gift?

If I have dated someone for a short time, when should I give a gift?

Gift Giving Etiquette in Your Social Life

Gift Giving Etiquette in Your Social Life

Where can I find information about gift giving customs in other countries?

Where can I find information about gift giving customs in other countries?

What are some of the taboos of international gift giving?

What are some of the taboos of international gift giving?

What are some general gift guidelines for international friends, colleagues, or clients?

What are some general gift guidelines for international friends, colleagues, or clients?

What should I do if I receive a business gift that I feel is inappropriate?

What should I do if I receive a business gift that I feel is inappropriate?

What if my religious or personal beliefs do not permit me to give gifts?

What if my religious or personal beliefs do not permit me to give gifts?

What is an appropriate gift for a person who has lost someone close to them?

What is an appropriate gift for a person who has lost someone close to them?

When is it appropriate to give a gift to a client, and what are some appropriate gifts?

When is it appropriate to give a gift to a client, and what are some appropriate gifts?

What methods can offices do to avoid bombarding employees with requests for money?

What methods can offices do to avoid bombarding employees with requests for money?

If I am on a tight budget, what are my obligations in giving gifts to colleagues or co-workers?

If I am on a tight budget, what are my obligations in giving gifts to colleagues or co-workers?

When is it necessary or appropriate to give a gift to a co-worker, and what gifts are appropriate?

When is it necessary or appropriate to give a gift to a co-worker, and what gifts are appropriate?

What are some gift ideas for my staff?

What are some gift ideas for my staff?

When is it necessary or appropriate for a boss to give a gift to their employees?

When is it necessary or appropriate for a boss to give a gift to their employees?

When is it necessary or appropriate to give my boss a gift?

When is it necessary or appropriate to give my boss a gift?

What should I avoid when choosing a business gift?

What should I avoid when choosing a business gift?

Are there general gift giving guidelines in business?

Are there general gift giving guidelines in business?

Business Gift Giving Etiquette

Business Gift Giving Etiquette

Is it ever appropriate to re-gift?

Is it ever appropriate to re-gift?

Should I give a gift that reflects someones beliefs or questions?

Should I give a gift that reflects someones beliefs or questions?

What are some of the taboos about year-end gift giving?

What are some of the taboos about year-end gift giving?

Do I have to give a gift to everyone who gives one to me?

Do I have to give a gift to everyone who gives one to me?

When is the best time to give year-end holiday gifts?

When is the best time to give year-end holiday gifts?

This year, I would like to give "green."  What are some green gift choices?

This year, I would like to give "green." What are some green gift choices?

Is it okay to give a gift card or gift certificate instead of a specific gift?

Is it okay to give a gift card or gift certificate instead of a specific gift?

How do I choose the right gift?

How do I choose the right gift?

Are there general guidelines for year-end holiday gift giving?

Are there general guidelines for year-end holiday gift giving?

Holiday Gift Giving Etiquette

Holiday Gift Giving Etiquette

Basic Dining Etiquette - Tips for the Toast

Basic Dining Etiquette - Tips for the Toast

Basic Dining Etiquette - Eating Difficult Foods

Basic Dining Etiquette - Eating Difficult Foods

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Dessert and Coffee

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Dessert and Coffee

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using a Finger Bowl

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using a Finger Bowl

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Main Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Main Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Salad Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Salad Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Soup Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Soup Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Bread and Condiments

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Bread and Condiments

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Glass Ware

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Glass Ware

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using Utensils

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using Utensils

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Napkin

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Napkin

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Place Setting

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Place Setting

Basic Dining Etiquette - Table Taboos

Basic Dining Etiquette - Table Taboos

Basic Dining Etiquette - Getting Seated

Basic Dining Etiquette - Getting Seated

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Invitation

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Invitation

Basic Dining Etiquette

Basic Dining Etiquette

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Nancy Mitchell

The Etiquette Advocate, Inc.

www.etiquetteadvocate.com  

301-320-8055

Nancy R. Mitchell is an established protocol and etiquette consultant and advisor with more than 30 years of experience in the field. Currently, she is an adjunct faculty member at George Washington University, where she developed and teaches protocol courses to Event Management Certificate Program students in the School of Business and Public Management, and at Stratford University, Falls Church, VA. She serves also as protocol and special events consultant to the Library of Congress, the world’s largest library and cultural center. For 23 years, Mitchell was Director of Special Events and Public Programs at the Library of Congress where she and her staff were responsible for planning and managing over 400 events each year. She coordinated the institution’s major special events, visits of heads of state and other foreign dignitaries, fundraising galas, conferences and meetings. As the Library’s chief protocol advisor, she served as liaison to the White House, U.S Department of State, the Congress, the Supreme Court and other government agencies, foreign embassies, academia and corporations. Mitchell owns The Etiquette Advocate, Inc., a firm providing etiquette and protocol training to corporations, universities, embassies, government agencies, non-profit organizations and individuals. She is the etiquette consultant to Engaged! magazine; has been featured on Good Morning America, Fox 5 News, WTOP Radio and National Public Radio; and is quoted on matters of etiquette and protocol by The New York Times, The Washington Post, and the Washington Business Journal. She is a co-owner of the firm, Protocol Partners-Washington Center for Protocol, Inc., and is a member of the Protocol and Diplomacy International Protocol Officers Association.

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Main Course

Nancy Mitchell of The Etiquette Advocate demonstrates how to eat the main course properly with utensils.

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Nancy Mitchell: Hello, I am Nancy Mitchell with the Etiquette Advocate and we are talking about dining etiquette. Well talk now about the main course and what to do when that arrives. In most cases you will receive your entree as a pre-plated course. Whatever you have ordered, if its in the restaurant or whatever your host or hostess has planned for you will come pre-plated and the waiter will set down a plate in front of you. By the way wait staff will serve you from the left, they clear from the right.

Glassware is always filled and removed from the right side, you need to be aware of where waiter is in the service of a meal, because there are times when you might have to lean to the left or to the right or to accommodate a waiter in some fashion. So, if your entree arrives in this manner, you again have that option of eating American fashion or European fashion. If I have chosen to eat American fashion and we are having today mashed potatoes, chicken and green beans. I will make one cut of meat at a time, I do not cut the entire chicken breast, I cut one piece at a time and I eat one piece at a time.

American fashion, I am going to make that one cut, I am going to place my knife on the upper edge of my plate, I am going to switch the fork to my right hand and I am going to eat the bite that I have just cut and I will go through that many, many times as I eat the entree. If I have chosen to eat European fashion, I am going to make that cut, move the fork to my mouth without changing it from hand to hand have my elbows very close to my body, my wrists can rest on the table and I can make as my cuts in this fashion as I want without putting my knife and fork back on to my plate. When its time for me to take a sip of water, a sip of wine, I will follow again that Silence Service Code, where for European fashion, my fork and knife are crisscrossed a X pattern on my plate, take a drink of water, leave the table for a short period of time or if I am eating American fashion again they will be crisscrossed, but the tines of my fork will be pointed up. Some space between the utensils, its telling the wait staff, I am not finished, dont remove this course, I am coming back. When I am completely finished those are going to be parallel, closer together, European fashion the tines will be turned down and again these will be close together and parallel on this portion of the plate. The beauty of eating continental fashion is you can make that one cut, but then you can push some potatoes on to this bite, you can push a few green beans, you can build a little package of food, if you will on the end of the fork, pivot your wrist bring that to your mouth, its perfectly alright to use the knife as a pusher, it pushes bits of the potato, bits of the green bean, whatever you want to make this bite. You can push that on to the end of the fork and bite it at one time very efficient. The rule of thumb and this is served is taste your food before you immediately add salt and pepper, its shows that you are jumping to conclusions, you are a rash sort of person, you are often offending your host or hostess if you reach for the salt and pepper and you immediately salt and pepper your food, before you have even tasted it. So, go easy on the salt and pepper taste it, enjoy it, then decide if it needs something else. You can now look for condiments on the table, but if you are in someones home, dont ask for special sauces that you dont see that are on the table and meant to be served with the dishes that are planned for you. Next we are going to be talking about French services with a main course. Now that we have showing you how to eat a main course that is pre-plated. I would like to share some information with you about French service. On very formal occasions, your host or hostess may determine that the entree or any other course may be served French service which means, that the course will arrive on a large tray and the wait staff will offer the food to each diner. This tray will contain the food for the entire table. So, the diner needs to watch to see what is happening. When the waiter comes to the left of the diner, the diner may need to stop talking, look at the waiter and indicate which of the dishes or food items on the tray they wish to have. You could turn to a waiter and you might say in this case, I would like some of the chicken breast and the green beans please, but I dont care for the potatoes. You will have to communicate with the waiter to let him or her know, what you want from the tray then the waiter will literally serve you what you have just asked for in a proportion on your plate and if you want a little bit more, you might say May I have a little bit more of the green bean or little bit more the sauce or something. So, you need to communicate with the waiter.

Modified French Service will be the food for the entire table is arranged on this tray, but the serving utensils will be pointed toward the diner. The waiter will ask you to help yourself, you in that case pickup the fork in the spoon and you lift the pieces of the food that you want from the common tray on to your plate, then the waiter will move around the table in such manner. Next we are going to be talking about how to use a finger bowl.

A few additional comments by hopefulromntic at 09/09/11 10:16PM Flag

Additionally, historically the entree course was the "entry" course that was used to prep the diner's pallate for the main course (or the relevé course, which in English is the "relief" course). In French cooking, meals are served in courses like this to continously guide the tastebuds in a direction and enhance the flavor of a one dish to the next. However, in America the entree is confused with main course. Just a tidbit if you want to have a truly "formal" dinner.

A few additional comments by hopefulromntic at 09/09/11 10:15PM Flag

Fantastic video. One additional point to note is that in a truly formal dinner, the entree is a course before the main or "roast" course. A true formal dinner in European style is appetizer/cocktail course, soup course, fish course, entree course, sherbet/sorbet course used for pallate cleansing, main course, salad course, and finally dessert course/coffee. Move the salad course to after the soup course in an American style formal dinner.

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