Basic Dining Etiquette

Basic Dining Etiquette

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Invitation

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Invitation

Basic Dining Etiquette - Getting Seated

Basic Dining Etiquette - Getting Seated

Basic Dining Etiquette - Table Taboos

Basic Dining Etiquette - Table Taboos

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Place Setting

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Place Setting

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Napkin

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Napkin

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using Utensils

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using Utensils

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Glass Ware

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Glass Ware

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Bread and Condiments

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Bread and Condiments

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Soup Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Soup Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Salad Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Salad Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Main Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Main Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using a Finger Bowl

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using a Finger Bowl

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Dessert and Coffee

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Dessert and Coffee

Basic Dining Etiquette - Eating Difficult Foods

Basic Dining Etiquette - Eating Difficult Foods

Basic Dining Etiquette - Tips for the Toast

Basic Dining Etiquette - Tips for the Toast

Dining Etiquette For Beginners

Dining Etiquette For Beginners

How should I respond to gifts of condolence that I or my family receives?

How should I respond to gifts of condolence that I or my family receives?

What is an appropriate gift for a friend or neighbor who has lost a loved one?

What is an appropriate gift for a friend or neighbor who has lost a loved one?

If I am an overnight guest in someone's home, should I bring a gift?

If I am an overnight guest in someone's home, should I bring a gift?

If I am invited to dinner in someone's home, should I bring a gift and what are some appropriate gifts?

If I am invited to dinner in someone's home, should I bring a gift and what are some appropriate gifts?

Are their taboos in selecting a baby gift?

Are their taboos in selecting a baby gift?

What are the best baby gifts?

What are the best baby gifts?

When must I give a baby gift?

When must I give a baby gift?

What if the bridal couple requests money instead of gifts?

What if the bridal couple requests money instead of gifts?

Am I obligated to select a gift from the bridal couple's wedding registry?

Am I obligated to select a gift from the bridal couple's wedding registry?

If I receive a wedding announcement but was not invited to the wedding, must I give a wedding gift?

If I receive a wedding announcement but was not invited to the wedding, must I give a wedding gift?

When is the best time to give a wedding gift?

When is the best time to give a wedding gift?

Do I have to give a gift for both a wedding shower and a wedding?

Do I have to give a gift for both a wedding shower and a wedding?

What are the gift guidelines for wedding showers?

What are the gift guidelines for wedding showers?

When a couple I know announces their engagement, do I need to send a gift?

When a couple I know announces their engagement, do I need to send a gift?

What should I avoid when selecting gifts for friends or relatives?

What should I avoid when selecting gifts for friends or relatives?

What are some tips regarding gift giving with friends and family?

What are some tips regarding gift giving with friends and family?

What should I think about before selecting a gift for a boyfriend or girlfriend?

What should I think about before selecting a gift for a boyfriend or girlfriend?

What are some appropriate gifts for someone whom I have dated for a short period of time?

What are some appropriate gifts for someone whom I have dated for a short period of time?

If I have dated someone for a short time, when should I give a gift?

If I have dated someone for a short time, when should I give a gift?

Gift Giving Etiquette in Your Social Life

Gift Giving Etiquette in Your Social Life

Where can I find information about gift giving customs in other countries?

Where can I find information about gift giving customs in other countries?

What are some of the taboos of international gift giving?

What are some of the taboos of international gift giving?

What are some general gift guidelines for international friends, colleagues, or clients?

What are some general gift guidelines for international friends, colleagues, or clients?

What should I do if I receive a business gift that I feel is inappropriate?

What should I do if I receive a business gift that I feel is inappropriate?

What if my religious or personal beliefs do not permit me to give gifts?

What if my religious or personal beliefs do not permit me to give gifts?

What is an appropriate gift for a person who has lost someone close to them?

What is an appropriate gift for a person who has lost someone close to them?

When is it appropriate to give a gift to a client, and what are some appropriate gifts?

When is it appropriate to give a gift to a client, and what are some appropriate gifts?

What methods can offices do to avoid bombarding employees with requests for money?

What methods can offices do to avoid bombarding employees with requests for money?

If I am on a tight budget, what are my obligations in giving gifts to colleagues or co-workers?

If I am on a tight budget, what are my obligations in giving gifts to colleagues or co-workers?

When is it necessary or appropriate to give a gift to a co-worker, and what gifts are appropriate?

When is it necessary or appropriate to give a gift to a co-worker, and what gifts are appropriate?

What are some gift ideas for my staff?

What are some gift ideas for my staff?

When is it necessary or appropriate for a boss to give a gift to their employees?

When is it necessary or appropriate for a boss to give a gift to their employees?

When is it necessary or appropriate to give my boss a gift?

When is it necessary or appropriate to give my boss a gift?

What should I avoid when choosing a business gift?

What should I avoid when choosing a business gift?

Are there general gift giving guidelines in business?

Are there general gift giving guidelines in business?

Business Gift Giving Etiquette

Business Gift Giving Etiquette

Is it ever appropriate to re-gift?

Is it ever appropriate to re-gift?

Should I give a gift that reflects someones beliefs or questions?

Should I give a gift that reflects someones beliefs or questions?

What are some of the taboos about year-end gift giving?

What are some of the taboos about year-end gift giving?

Do I have to give a gift to everyone who gives one to me?

Do I have to give a gift to everyone who gives one to me?

When is the best time to give year-end holiday gifts?

When is the best time to give year-end holiday gifts?

This year, I would like to give "green."  What are some green gift choices?

This year, I would like to give "green." What are some green gift choices?

Is it okay to give a gift card or gift certificate instead of a specific gift?

Is it okay to give a gift card or gift certificate instead of a specific gift?

How do I choose the right gift?

How do I choose the right gift?

Are there general guidelines for year-end holiday gift giving?

Are there general guidelines for year-end holiday gift giving?

Holiday Gift Giving Etiquette

Holiday Gift Giving Etiquette

Basic Dining Etiquette - Tips for the Toast

Basic Dining Etiquette - Tips for the Toast

Basic Dining Etiquette - Eating Difficult Foods

Basic Dining Etiquette - Eating Difficult Foods

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Dessert and Coffee

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Dessert and Coffee

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using a Finger Bowl

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using a Finger Bowl

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Main Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Main Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Salad Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Salad Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Soup Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Soup Course

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Bread and Condiments

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Bread and Condiments

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Glass Ware

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Glass Ware

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using Utensils

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using Utensils

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Napkin

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Napkin

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Place Setting

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Place Setting

Basic Dining Etiquette - Table Taboos

Basic Dining Etiquette - Table Taboos

Basic Dining Etiquette - Getting Seated

Basic Dining Etiquette - Getting Seated

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Invitation

Basic Dining Etiquette - The Invitation

Basic Dining Etiquette

Basic Dining Etiquette

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Easy Lasagna Recipe

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Traditional Crawfish Etouffee

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Types of Culinary Salts and Uses

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How To Make Fusilli Pasta Salad

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How To Make Herb Mayonnaise

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3 Ways To Make Vinaigrette

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How To Make Turkish Coffee With Cardamom

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How To Make Double Chocolate Baklava

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How To Make Cucumber Yogurt Sauce

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How To Cut A Grapefruit

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How To Make Grapefruit Angel Food Shortcake

How To Make Mini Grapefruit Pies

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Nancy Mitchell

The Etiquette Advocate, Inc.

www.etiquetteadvocate.com  

301-320-8055

Nancy R. Mitchell is an established protocol and etiquette consultant and advisor with more than 30 years of experience in the field. Currently, she is an adjunct faculty member at George Washington University, where she developed and teaches protocol courses to Event Management Certificate Program students in the School of Business and Public Management, and at Stratford University, Falls Church, VA. She serves also as protocol and special events consultant to the Library of Congress, the world’s largest library and cultural center. For 23 years, Mitchell was Director of Special Events and Public Programs at the Library of Congress where she and her staff were responsible for planning and managing over 400 events each year. She coordinated the institution’s major special events, visits of heads of state and other foreign dignitaries, fundraising galas, conferences and meetings. As the Library’s chief protocol advisor, she served as liaison to the White House, U.S Department of State, the Congress, the Supreme Court and other government agencies, foreign embassies, academia and corporations. Mitchell owns The Etiquette Advocate, Inc., a firm providing etiquette and protocol training to corporations, universities, embassies, government agencies, non-profit organizations and individuals. She is the etiquette consultant to Engaged! magazine; has been featured on Good Morning America, Fox 5 News, WTOP Radio and National Public Radio; and is quoted on matters of etiquette and protocol by The New York Times, The Washington Post, and the Washington Business Journal. She is a co-owner of the firm, Protocol Partners-Washington Center for Protocol, Inc., and is a member of the Protocol and Diplomacy International Protocol Officers Association.

Basic Dining Etiquette - Using a Finger Bowl

Nancy Mitchell of The Etiquette Advocate explains how to use a finger bowl of water to clean your hands.

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Nancy Mitchell: Hello, I am Nancy Mitchell with the Etiquette Advocate and we are talking about dining etiquette. I would like to tell you now about how to use a finger bowl. A finger bowl is traditionally served after the main course and before the dessert. The thought is that you may have had a course that involved picking something up with your hands, there maybe grease on your hands. In some way, you want to clean your hands very quickly and get ready for dessert. Its also a ritual if you will its something thats been around for many, many, many generations. So, it may seem that its very archaic, but its part of a traditional dinner service.

What will happen is a waiter will bring you a plate, on top of the plate is a doily. On top of the doily is a small bowl that is maybe half filled with water and inside there maybe a lemon slice or there maybe a flower floating. Those are for decoration, you dont have to remove the lemon, you dont remove the flower, those stay in the water. You dip one hand at a time and we are talking very, very quickly, very unobtrusively you are switching the fingertips of your hand in the water. You are moving your hand down to your lap where your napkin is placed you are drying the tips of your finger. What you cant see below the level of the table is I am drying my fingertips on the napkin thats lying on my lap.

I have done one hand I do the other hand, so its one hand at a time. I am drying my fingertips now, once thats finished. I pick up both the doily and the bowl with the water and I place them to the left and above my plate where my bread plate was before it was cleared away. This then becomes my dessert plate. I need to clear the doily away, so that whatever is coming next for dessert will sit on the plate and not on the doily. At that point, I will notice that I still have silverware here above my place setting its for dessert. My job as the diner is I pick up the spoon and the fork and place them to the left and the right of my plate setting. Just as before, forks on the left, spoons on the right. Those become my utensils for dessert. The doily and the bowl of water remain here, up to the left of your place setting until the waiter comes to take that away. Next, we will be talking about dessert and coffee.