Speaker: Why does someone becomes a bully?
Dr. Ted Feinberg: There are variety of reasons some of which I have mentioned in terms of atmosphere in the home, what they see on television, what they experiences living in the community. If there is violence theme in the home or the community, the child may get warp sense of what is socially appropriate.
In other cases, its an attempt on the part of bully to dominate and control and intimidate another individual and there is some perverse pleasures they get by doing that. In some cases, they think that by doing this, they will go on a peer approval and recognition as being kind of macho, but in any case of bullying behavior the child needs to learn alternative ways of the dealing with their feels and emotions and alternative ways in understanding that the victim is a human being and not deserving of this type of torment and torture, because as I said earlier, in some case when bullying goes on undiagnosed for extended periods of time, what results is one or two terrible outcomes.
A child is so much in pain as a result of this behavior that they see no way out and they commit suicide or consider committing suicide as a way of getting this money off their back. In other cases, the situation becomes much more externally violent and what we have seen over the years is that many of youngsters, who have engaged in school shooting behavior were in fact bullied individuals and they saw no way of remedying the problem, short of bringing a weapon to school, to settle the score. Sos, in this situation the outcome is tragic and its important to note that individuals, who engage in bullying behavior, who go unchecked have a much, much higher incidences of being involved in the criminal justices system by the time they are in their mid 20s, than the kids who do not bully.
So its to the benefit of the bully, if we can find ways to get them to alter their behaviors and it reduces the potential that that individual will be in jail for these types behavior because if they continue that type of bulling behavior into adulthood then it becomes an issue for law enforcement and for or criminal justice system.
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My child is being bullied.
Thanks so much for the video's on bulleying,my child is going through this at a new school and i need all the info i can get ,Thanks again Bridgett