If my world is reporting back to me my thoughts, why am I not getting what I want?

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Host: If my world is reporting back to be my thoughts, why am not getting what I want?

Will Maney: Well, so one of the things we want to take a look at it is perhaps the difference in how we look at what I want and what I need, and that is bigger topics than we can probably do very, very quickly. But, let me just run us on by you. Every single moment you are getting what you need. Now, depending upon if you have children or not they may disagree with that.

But right now my body is getting oxygen; right now I am out of the bad weather. So, if we could accept the fact that I am constantly getting what I need, there is another whole level to peak at. I am getting what I need in order to get my attention and this is really what we want to talk about today. As far as getting what I want, I would dear say that, we aren t getting what we want. That is not an easy thing to run by people especially when they are upset, when they are upset, when they are hurt, when they have an accident and they lose an arm, when they do not get the scholarship, when we can go through the whole litany, okay and there will be immediate responses, I do not what you are talking about, I did not order this package and the biggest barrier we have in any kind of this work is to get the individual to realize three words that they never want to say and those three words are; I did this and it really takes a lot of time to get there because in our normal response we want to assign causality, we want to assign blame elsewhere. Its not because of me, it is because of the way that person looked at me or it is because I am too tall, too short. So, usually we have to do, I did this. Now, that undoes the trance that maintains the illusion.

Now, that sounds simple but it is indeed, now this is not what I wanted or I did not order this package, then how could it be here? So, if you take a look at the amount of time we spend trying to prove that it is not our fault or how about this that I had nothing to do with this; this came out of the blue. That is the corner stone to this intuitive mediation that we work and then develop.

It is absolutely a process because we have to strengthen that muscle. The moment that I fly off the handle, it is because I am going to try to prove that what just arrived in my life had nothing to do with me, I am innocent and that is the thing that, that is what keeps us engaged and here comes the trick. It keeps us engaged in behavioral pattern and not become habitual.

Once something becomes habitual, it takes on a life of its own. Once it takes on a life of its own, it simply wants to survive. So, that is a bit more of an explanation but you can get what you know about.

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