Host: What is compatibility in a loved relationship?

Chris Wright: Compatibility is important, it is the second source of happiness and fulfillment in a relationship and it is the most important. Compatibility is when your needs are lined up, when you both get along well because you are both appreciative in value and responsive to each other s core personality needs. Each of us has core needs at the source of the base of our personality; in fact our whole personality is built around meeting those needs. They are fundamental to who we are if you are someone who disregards these personality needs, is not responsive to them, you are not going to be happy in this relationship, it is going to drive you nuts.

Meeting these needs, finding someone who blends with these is the basis of your happiness here. It is so vital, it is so essential, that that is the reason why we have an engagement period because you can form love with someone, but it takes getting to know them overtime to see to what extent our needs are lining up, to what extent do we respond to each others core needs. If in the relationship you start discovering overtime that you are not responsive to my needs or your needs were conflicting with my needs, we are not getting along and so that merely we end the relationship.

However, with someone as overtime we realize that our needs are lining up, that we are responsive, we are feeling very fulfilled in this relationship and that s the basis of happiness in a relationship is to what extent is your personality needs line up together that you responsive to each other needs.