Part 3 - How to Have a Successful Relationship: Tools for Resolving Issues

Part 3 - How to Have a Successful Relationship: Tools for Resolving Issues

Resolving Irritations, Frustrations and Light Tensions

Resolving Irritations, Frustrations and Light Tensions

How do we talk about our sensitive issues together?

How do we talk about our sensitive issues together?

What is the most important Element or skill in discussing issues?

What is the most important Element or skill in discussing issues?

Tools for Listening so That You Always Feel Heard

Tools for Listening so That You Always Feel Heard

Effective Resolutions that Respond to Both Person's Needs

Effective Resolutions that Respond to Both Person's Needs

What should we do when we are starting to feel really upset?

What should we do when we are starting to feel really upset?

Can I always de-escalate the pressure?

Can I always de-escalate the pressure?

Part 4 - Lovemaking: Transforming Sex into Lovemaking

Part 4 - Lovemaking: Transforming Sex into Lovemaking

What range of sexual experiences can we have?

What range of sexual experiences can we have?

Why does lovemaking seem to change overtime and become just sex in a marriage?

Why does lovemaking seem to change overtime and become just sex in a marriage?

How does erotic sex become a problem?

How does erotic sex become a problem?

How do Turn On's become a problem?

How do Turn On's become a problem?

How would I know when I'm caught up in my Turn On's?

How would I know when I'm caught up in my Turn On's?

What is the difference between sex and intimacy?

What is the difference between sex and intimacy?

How does goal-oriented sex limit the ecstatic experience?

How does goal-oriented sex limit the ecstatic experience?

If sex wasn't goal oriented, what would it be like?

If sex wasn't goal oriented, what would it be like?

Don't women want to have sex as well?

Don't women want to have sex as well?

How does this orientation of lovemaking change the experience?

How does this orientation of lovemaking change the experience?

How does pure lovemaking affect each partner's lives?

How does pure lovemaking affect each partner's lives?

How does this lovemaking change your relationship together?

How does this lovemaking change your relationship together?

Part 5 - How to Live the Relationship You Dreamed Of

Part 5 - How to Live the Relationship You Dreamed Of

For unhappy couples, could they just be incompatible?

For unhappy couples, could they just be incompatible?

What does it take for a couple to live the relationship they've dreamed of?

What does it take for a couple to live the relationship they've dreamed of?

How to Have a Successful Relationship (Part 4): Spice up Love

How to Have a Successful Relationship (Part 4): Spice up Love

How to Have a Successful Relationship (Part 1)

How to Have a Successful Relationship (Part 1)

Part 3 - How to Have a Successful Relationship: Tools for Resolving Issues

Part 3 - How to Have a Successful Relationship: Tools for Resolving Issues

If we're in love, why can there be so much conflict or tension?

If we're in love, why can there be so much conflict or tension?

Meeting Dates Made Easy

Meeting Dates Made Easy

Prom Etiquette

Prom Etiquette

How to Buy Diamond Jewelry

How to Buy Diamond Jewelry

How to Buy Diamond Stud Earrings

How to Buy Diamond Stud Earrings

How to Buy a Diamond Bracelet

How to Buy a Diamond Bracelet

How to Buy a Diamond Necklace

How to Buy a Diamond Necklace

How to Save Money Buying Diamond Jewelry

How to Save Money Buying Diamond Jewelry

How to Buy Diamond Jewelry Online

How to Buy Diamond Jewelry Online

How to Care For Diamond Jewelry

How to Care For Diamond Jewelry

How to Insure Your Diamond Jewelry

How to Insure Your Diamond Jewelry

How to Trade-up Diamond Jewelry

How to Trade-up Diamond Jewelry

Dating Tips for Shy People

Dating Tips for Shy People

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Chris Wright

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Chris Wright is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. He sees clients in the Washington, D.C. area and has telephone clients from around the world. So if you are having difficulty in your relationship, call for a free telephone consultation. Chris was Director of the Human Relations Institute in Houston and with PAIRS International -- training psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists in couple's skills programs. As an innovator in the field, he has developed a unique blend of tools that increase the effectiveness in relationships. He has Masters Degrees from the University of Arizona and Antioch University in Los Angeles.

How does pure lovemaking affect each partner's lives?

Relationship expert Chris Wright talks about how pure lovemaking affects each partner's life.

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Host: How does pure love making affect each partner in their wellbeing?

Chris Wright: When you tap into these fundamental life currents, these energies together, they affect you in your wellbeing, maybe in ways that you have not anticipated or expected. These are magnetic energies that enliven you, they balance your nervous system, they nourish your whole mind, body and spirit together, that s they have a powerful effect on your personal sense of wellbeing. It is like you are opening up into a powerful -- it is like a shower of sparkling energy when you connect in sexual union in lovemaking, that flushes through all the fatigue, all the tension, all of the tiredness, gets flushed out of the system and you feel refreshed, you feel back in balance again. At the same time it connects you to a center inside yourself where you are fully relax, where you feel really at peace inside. So, both of these together, you feel enlivened, feel live again, at the same time you feel relaxed and at peace again. Whatever your nervous system needs in the experience, when you connect to these energies, it is like a battery recharger for you as maybe your cell phone that when you connect the masculine feminine union together, that that energies that you are connecting to inside of yourself is like a recharger and whatever your systems need into that moment, it provides a wholeness, a balancing effect that brings you back in to the experience where you do feel whole, you feel yourself again.

So, lovemaking is more now than just about pleasure, just about sex, it is about connecting in a way that enlivens your sense of self, your wellbeing, it balances you from wherever your out of balance that nourishes you into someway within yourself. As a result in this way in this process of lovemaking, whereas before you would find excuses to having sex, Oh, I am too tired, I -- do not you know it is, I had a long day and lot of fatigue, in this process that would be time you would want to come together and make love to feel close, to feel intimate, to recharge your batteries, to flush out all the tiredness of the day, to get you out of your head and back in your body, back in a sense of wholeness and balance, to go into the evening or the rest of the week.

Same thing, I am too tired, I am too stressed out, I had too much on my mind, I get to too many worries, that is the time when you would want to make love, you would want to connect that Masculine Feminine connection to flush out all those tensions, all that stress, come back into that life force that is within your center, feel that nourish you, fill you, balance you again. So, you feel relaxed, you feel connected again to yourself, not disconnected. Some people are in use to give excuses, Well, I am not in the mood, it is like sex is a big production or it takes a lot of energy, a lot of getting each other turned on and all of this. Lovemaking is not about getting each other turned on, it is about being close, it is about being intimate. When you are not in the mood that would the sign or that would be the time, you would wanted to be close, you would want to be held, you would want to connect to these energies to flush that out and gets your center back. Even the excuse of, I do not have time, we never have time to have sex, really you have time to take a shower, well it does not take 5, 10, 15 even 20 minutes together, connect to tap into these energies, you are going to find incredible sense of wellbeing, that permeates from you connecting to yourself in a very profound way, in a way that you can reach by yourself that when you connect to the other energies, the Masculine or Feminine combined, flushes all that out and produces a sense of wellbeing. So, whatever your nervous system needs at the time, that is where your system get and that is what determines the experience that you have during lovemaking and it brings you back into absorbing these energies, where it nourishes you and you feel like you have yourself back again.

How do we find our personality needs using the Enneagram?

How do we find our personality needs using the Enneagram?

What are the nine personality needs in the Enneagram?

What are the nine personality needs in the Enneagram?

How can we learn more about our own Enneagram type and our partners?

How can we learn more about our own Enneagram type and our partners?

What is an example of tensions creating conflict using the Enneagram?

What is an example of tensions creating conflict using the Enneagram?

What does the Enneagram teach about self-awareness?

What does the Enneagram teach about self-awareness?

How can I identify all the areas in my personality where these pressures show up?

How can I identify all the areas in my personality where these pressures show up?

If I don't know what my partner is upset about how can I validate it?

If I don't know what my partner is upset about how can I validate it?

How can we identify what our core personality needs are?

How can we identify what our core personality needs are?

In a conflict, isn't someone right and someone wrong?

In a conflict, isn't someone right and someone wrong?

How do you know when your personality is "Over the Top?"

How do you know when your personality is "Over the Top?"