If we're in love, why can there be so much conflict or tension?

If we're in love, why can there be so much conflict or tension?

What is an example of tensions creating conflict using the Enneagram?

What is an example of tensions creating conflict using the Enneagram?

Is the problem our unmet needs or how we communicate our needs with our partner?

Is the problem our unmet needs or how we communicate our needs with our partner?

In a conflict, isn't someone right and someone wrong?

In a conflict, isn't someone right and someone wrong?

What should we do when our needs conflict?

What should we do when our needs conflict?

How do we prevent having conflicts with each other?

How do we prevent having conflicts with each other?

7 Basic Principles for Concious Conflict Resolution

7 Basic Principles for Concious Conflict Resolution

Self-Awareness of Your Personality is the 1st Principle

Self-Awareness of Your Personality is the 1st Principle

What does the Enneagram teach about self-awareness?

What does the Enneagram teach about self-awareness?

How do you know when your personality is "Over the Top?"

How do you know when your personality is "Over the Top?"

Do we need to analyze all the issues from our past?

Do we need to analyze all the issues from our past?

How does self-awareness of your personality help?

How does self-awareness of your personality help?

How can I identify all the areas in my personality where these pressures show up?

How can I identify all the areas in my personality where these pressures show up?

What if what I want in a conflict doesn't seem over the top?

What if what I want in a conflict doesn't seem over the top?

What do we do with our ego needs?

What do we do with our ego needs?

2nd Principle: No More Criticizing or Blaming!

2nd Principle: No More Criticizing or Blaming!

Doesn't honest criticism get your partner to change?

Doesn't honest criticism get your partner to change?

When something is bothering me, how do I get someone to change?

When something is bothering me, how do I get someone to change?

3rd Principle: Take Responsibility in a Conflict

3rd Principle: Take Responsibility in a Conflict

4th Principle: Relating is the key to harmony when needs conflict

4th Principle: Relating is the key to harmony when needs conflict

If I don't agree how can I validate my partner?

If I don't agree how can I validate my partner?

If I don't know what my partner is upset about how can I validate it?

If I don't know what my partner is upset about how can I validate it?

5th Principle: Both Person's Needs Matter!

5th Principle: Both Person's Needs Matter!

6th Principle: Is This the Setting to Really Resolve This?

6th Principle: Is This the Setting to Really Resolve This?

7th Principle: You're Not Entitled to Freely Dump Your Tensions

7th Principle: You're Not Entitled to Freely Dump Your Tensions

How to Have a Successful Relationship (Part 4): Spice up Love

How to Have a Successful Relationship (Part 4): Spice up Love

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How to Have a Successful Relationship (Part 1)

Part 3 - How to Have a Successful Relationship: Tools for Resolving Issues

Part 3 - How to Have a Successful Relationship: Tools for Resolving Issues

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If we're in love, why can there be so much conflict or tension?

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Chris Wright

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Chris Wright is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. He sees clients in the Washington, D.C. area and has telephone clients from around the world. So if you are having difficulty in your relationship, call for a free telephone consultation. Chris was Director of the Human Relations Institute in Houston and with PAIRS International -- training psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists in couple's skills programs. As an innovator in the field, he has developed a unique blend of tools that increase the effectiveness in relationships. He has Masters Degrees from the University of Arizona and Antioch University in Los Angeles.

7 Basic Principles for Concious Conflict Resolution

Host: When our needs conflict, how can we make the process more honoring of each other?

Chris Wright: There are seven basic principles that help to make the process of tension and conflict in a relationship harmonious and honoring of each other. These seven principles really enable us to transform tensions into intimacy. They provide a framework that makes safe for us to be more heartfelt more vulnerable together and working through the issues that come up.

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Host: When our needs conflict, how can we make the process more honoring of each other?

Chris Wright: There are seven basic principles that help to make the process of tension and conflict in a relationship harmonious and honoring of each other. These seven principles really enable us to transform tensions into intimacy. They provide a framework that makes safe for us to be more heartfelt more vulnerable together and working through the issues that come up. So, instead of tensions actually pulling us apart, now within these frameworks, these understandings, these principles it actually brings us closer together. The themes throughout all of these principles has to do with honoring, how we honor each other? We honor each others world, the pressures, the insecurities, the gifts, the challenges and so this honoring is the key ingredient and in fact, this honoring as what distinguishes relationships that are considered sacred. People who are in -- what they think of a spiritual or sacred relationships, the core component of that a sense of honoring each other. So, it is an important consideration for not only restoring harmony but in deepening in a sense of reverence in this relationship and fulfillment. So, we were going to review these basic principles then afterwards the tools that enable you to live from principles in this series.

How do we find our personality needs using the Enneagram?

How do we find our personality needs using the Enneagram?

What are the nine personality needs in the Enneagram?

What are the nine personality needs in the Enneagram?

How can we learn more about our own Enneagram type and our partners?

How can we learn more about our own Enneagram type and our partners?

How can we identify what our core personality needs are?

How can we identify what our core personality needs are?

What is the most important Element or skill in discussing issues?

What is the most important Element or skill in discussing issues?

Tools for Listening so That You Always Feel Heard

Tools for Listening so That You Always Feel Heard

Can I always de-escalate the pressure?

Can I always de-escalate the pressure?

Part 5 - How to Live the Relationship You Dreamed Of

Part 5 - How to Live the Relationship You Dreamed Of

For unhappy couples, could they just be incompatible?

For unhappy couples, could they just be incompatible?

What does it take for a couple to live the relationship they've dreamed of?

What does it take for a couple to live the relationship they've dreamed of?