Self-Awareness of Your Personality is the 1st Principle
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If we're in love, why can there be so much conflict or tension?
What is an example of tensions creating conflict using the Enneagram?
Is the problem our unmet needs or how we communicate our needs with our partner?
In a conflict, isn't someone right and someone wrong?
What should we do when our needs conflict?
How do we prevent having conflicts with each other?
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Self-Awareness of Your Personality is the 1st Principle
What does the Enneagram teach about self-awareness?
How do you know when your personality is "Over the Top?"
Do we need to analyze all the issues from our past?
How does self-awareness of your personality help?
How can I identify all the areas in my personality where these pressures show up?
What if what I want in a conflict doesn't seem over the top?
What do we do with our ego needs?
2nd Principle: No More Criticizing or Blaming!
Doesn't honest criticism get your partner to change?
When something is bothering me, how do I get someone to change?
3rd Principle: Take Responsibility in a Conflict
4th Principle: Relating is the key to harmony when needs conflict
If I don't agree how can I validate my partner?
If I don't know what my partner is upset about how can I validate it?
5th Principle: Both Person's Needs Matter!
6th Principle: Is This the Setting to Really Resolve This?
7th Principle: You're Not Entitled to Freely Dump Your Tensions
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Chris Wright is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. He sees clients in the Washington, D.C. area and has telephone clients from around the world. So if you are having difficulty in your relationship, call for a free telephone consultation. Chris was Director of the Human Relations Institute in Houston and with PAIRS International -- training psychologists, psychiatrists and therapists in couple's skills programs. As an innovator in the field, he has developed a unique blend of tools that increase the effectiveness in relationships. He has Masters Degrees from the University of Arizona and Antioch University in Los Angeles.
Self-Awareness of Your Personality is the 1st Principle
Host:What is the first principle for conscious conflict resolution?
Chris Wright:The first principle for making conflicts more harmonious is self-awareness of the pressures inside that affect the relationship. There is an intention to come into balance to do something about it. If each of us are not aware of the pressures inside that affect others in their relationship, for denial, that we have no sense of that and how is ever going to change and if each of us also has no sense of why we are not responding to these other persons needs and what resistances are.
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Host:What is the first principle for conscious conflict resolution?
Chris Wright:The first principle for making conflicts more harmonious is self-awareness of the pressures inside that affect the relationship. There is an intention to come into balance to do something about it. If each of us are not aware of the pressures inside that affect others in their relationship, for denial, that we have no sense of that and how is ever going to change and if each of us also has no sense of why we are not responding to these other persons needs and what resistances are. Instead we just make the other partner wrong. How is it ever going to change?
So, self-awareness is the most important, it is the foundation of the whole relationship working. So, if we are going to have harmony in this relationship, it becomes important to become self-aware of how we are affecting the relationship and how we are responding each others needs.
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