When do children begin to understand the concept of death?

When do children begin to understand the concept of death?

How do preschool-aged children understand death?

How do preschool-aged children understand death?

When do children develop a mature understanding of death?

When do children develop a mature understanding of death?

What can parents expect from their children during times of grief?

What can parents expect from their children during times of grief?

How can parents prepare their children for funerals?

How can parents prepare their children for funerals?

What else should parents know about how their children deal with death?

What else should parents know about how their children deal with death?

How does reading aloud change as children reach school-age?

How does reading aloud change as children reach school-age?

What are some tips for reading with preschoolers?

What are some tips for reading with preschoolers?

What are some tips for reading with babies?

What are some tips for reading with babies?

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How can parents introduce longer stories or chapter books without pictures?

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How can parents control their child's screentime?

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What is the role of screentime?

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What is extended learning?

How else can parents encourage a love of reading?

How else can parents encourage a love of reading?

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How early should parents begin reading aloud to their child?

Why is reading aloud important?

Why is reading aloud important?

Should children be introduced to banking?

Should children be introduced to banking?

What if a child is reluctant to spend or to save?

What if a child is reluctant to spend or to save?

What is meant by "living expenses" and when should they be introduced?

What is meant by "living expenses" and when should they be introduced?

When should children begin earning money outside the house?

When should children begin earning money outside the house?

How does allowance change as children get older?

How does allowance change as children get older?

Why is it important to teach children about spending, saving, and charity?

Why is it important to teach children about spending, saving, and charity?

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How should allowance be managed?

How much allowance is the right amount?

How much allowance is the right amount?

How should parents introduce money to preschoolers?

How should parents introduce money to preschoolers?

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When should parents introduce the concept of money?

What are games parents & kids can play to increase vocabulary?

What are games parents & kids can play to increase vocabulary?

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How can parents encourage children to express emotions?

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What is plan-do-review?

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What else can parents do to encourage early speech?

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Is there a downside to parents anticipating a child's needs?

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How does echo expansion change as children get older?

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What is echo expansion?

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What is meant by "giving language to the point?"

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How long should parents continue running commentary?

What is running commentary?

What is running commentary?

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What are the benefits of outings?

When should parents start encouraging early speech?

When should parents start encouraging early speech?

Are there other red flags in language development?

Are there other red flags in language development?

What are some common language milestones?

What are some common language milestones?

What else should parents know about how their children deal with death?

What else should parents know about how their children deal with death?

How can parents prepare their children for funerals?

How can parents prepare their children for funerals?

What can parents expect from their children during times of grief?

What can parents expect from their children during times of grief?

When do children develop a mature understanding of death?

When do children develop a mature understanding of death?

How do preschool-aged children understand death?

How do preschool-aged children understand death?

When do children begin to understand the concept of death?

When do children begin to understand the concept of death?

What should a parent do when a child has finished following directions?

What should a parent do when a child has finished following directions?

How can parents help older children follow directions?

How can parents help older children follow directions?

How can parents keep kids on track when following verbal directions?

How can parents keep kids on track when following verbal directions?

How can parents check a child's understanding of verbal directions?

How can parents check a child's understanding of verbal directions?

How can parents help children remember verbal directions?

How can parents help children remember verbal directions?

Why is it better to give few directions rather than many?

Why is it better to give few directions rather than many?

How many verbal directions should a parent give a child at one time?

How many verbal directions should a parent give a child at one time?

At what pace should parents speak when giving directions?

At what pace should parents speak when giving directions?

How important is it to have a child's attention when giving directions?

How important is it to have a child's attention when giving directions?

Why is it important for children to learn to follow directions?

Why is it important for children to learn to follow directions?

Is there anything parents have to do if they choose not to send their child to preschool?

Is there anything parents have to do if they choose not to send their child to preschool?

What is the High/Scope approach?

What is the High/Scope approach?

What is the Regio Amelio approach?

What is the Regio Amelio approach?

What is a Montessori school?

What is a Montessori school?

What is the difference between preschool and daycare?

What is the difference between preschool and daycare?

What are the benefits off attending a preschool's open house?

What are the benefits off attending a preschool's open house?

What else can parents look for when choosing a preschool?

What else can parents look for when choosing a preschool?

What does NAEYC consider when reviewing a school?

What does NAEYC consider when reviewing a school?

Should parents consider NAEYC accreditation necessary?

Should parents consider NAEYC accreditation necessary?

What is NAEYC?

What is NAEYC?

Is there anything parents can do to prepare their children for school in lieu of preschool?

Is there anything parents can do to prepare their children for school in lieu of preschool?

Is preschool necessary?

Is preschool necessary?

How can parents prepare their children academically?

How can parents prepare their children academically?

How can parents prepare their children for kindergarten socially?

How can parents prepare their children for kindergarten socially?

What are the age considerations when preparing for kindergarten?

What are the age considerations when preparing for kindergarten?

Should physical size be considered when determining the child's readiness for kindergarten?

Should physical size be considered when determining the child's readiness for kindergarten?

What if the child seems immature for kindergarten?

What if the child seems immature for kindergarten?

How can parents determine whether their child is mature enough for kindergarten?

How can parents determine whether their child is mature enough for kindergarten?

What does the typical child know academically upon entering kindergarten?

What does the typical child know academically upon entering kindergarten?

What should children be able to do physically by the time they enter kindergarten?

What should children be able to do physically by the time they enter kindergarten?

What should children know before entering kindergarten?

What should children know before entering kindergarten?

What are other considerations for toy safety?

What are other considerations for toy safety?

What if a parent has a concern about a particular toy?

What if a parent has a concern about a particular toy?

What should parents consider when looking for toys on eBay or at yard sales?

What should parents consider when looking for toys on eBay or at yard sales?

What should parents look for when purchasing art supplies?

What should parents look for when purchasing art supplies?

What should parents consider when looking for toys with a long shelf life?

What should parents consider when looking for toys with a long shelf life?

What are "smart" toys?

What are "smart" toys?

What are "basic" toys?

What are "basic" toys?

What else should parents consider when purchasing toys?

What else should parents consider when purchasing toys?

What does the Consumer Product Safety Commission consider when setting age guidelines?

What does the Consumer Product Safety Commission consider when setting age guidelines?

Are there any alternatives to walkers?

Are there any alternatives to walkers?

What is the consensus on children using walkers?

What is the consensus on children using walkers?

What are the guidelines for ride-on toys?

What are the guidelines for ride-on toys?

How can parents avoid toys that could be choking hazards?

How can parents avoid toys that could be choking hazards?

What safety guidelines should parents consider before buying toys?

What safety guidelines should parents consider before buying toys?

Where can parents find out about toy recalls?

Where can parents find out about toy recalls?

What are some websites parents can visit before shopping for toys?

What are some websites parents can visit before shopping for toys?

Should parents monitor the safety of their children's toys?

Should parents monitor the safety of their children's toys?

What is the gifted and talented program?

What is the gifted and talented program?

What role do parents play in the process?

What role do parents play in the process?

Is there a review process for special education students?

Is there a review process for special education students?

What is an IEP?

What is an IEP?

How are services provided for special education?

How are services provided for special education?

What are the criteria for diagnosing a learning disability?

What are the criteria for diagnosing a learning disability?

How much time is needed for the evaluation?

How much time is needed for the evaluation?

What is included in the evaluation?

What is included in the evaluation?

What happens at each of the eligibility meetings?

What happens at each of the eligibility meetings?

What is the process for entering children into special education?

What is the process for entering children into special education?

For what ages and grade levels are special education services available?

For what ages and grade levels are special education services available?

How can parents determine if their child is a candidate for special education?

How can parents determine if their child is a candidate for special education?

Who is served in each special education program?

Who is served in each special education program?

What are the categories for special education?

What are the categories for special education?

What is special education?

What is special education?

How can parents get their kids to eat foods they don't like?

How can parents get their kids to eat foods they don't like?

What is the role of juice or milk in creating picky eaters?

What is the role of juice or milk in creating picky eaters?

What are some things not to do?

What are some things not to do?

How can parents prevent picky eating?

How can parents prevent picky eating?

What if my kids are already picky eaters

What if my kids are already picky eaters

Why are some kids picky eaters?

Why are some kids picky eaters?

Dealing with Picky Eaters

Dealing with Picky Eaters

What are some examples of each type of praise?

What are some examples of each type of praise?

Is there a better kind of praise?

Is there a better kind of praise?

Is there such a thing as bad praise?

Is there such a thing as bad praise?

Praising Your Children the Right Way

Praising Your Children the Right Way

What else can parents do to discourage whining?

What else can parents do to discourage whining?

What if the whining doesn't stop?

What if the whining doesn't stop?

How can parents get children to stop whining?

How can parents get children to stop whining?

What can parents do to lessen whining before it starts?

What can parents do to lessen whining before it starts?

What is the whining trap?

What is the whining trap?

Why do children whine?

Why do children whine?

Dealing with Whining Children as a Parent

Dealing with Whining Children as a Parent

How early should children be asked to contribute?

How early should children be asked to contribute?

What if the activities are too difficult or too easy for the child?

What if the activities are too difficult or too easy for the child?

What are some easy activities children can be asked to do?

What are some easy activities children can be asked to do?

How does contribution benefit the parent-child relationship?

How does contribution benefit the parent-child relationship?

How can parents begin to include their child?

How can parents begin to include their child?

What is contribution?

What is contribution?

How does traveling effect potty training?

How does traveling effect potty training?

How can parents deal with bed-wetting?

How can parents deal with bed-wetting?

Are there advantages to potty training in day care centers?

Are there advantages to potty training in day care centers?

What if the child refuses to train for poop?

What if the child refuses to train for poop?

What special concerns are there when training boys?

What special concerns are there when training boys?

What steps should parents take when the child is ready?

What steps should parents take when the child is ready?

What are some signs the child is not ready for potty training?

What are some signs the child is not ready for potty training?

What are some signs that the child is ready to begin potty training?

What are some signs that the child is ready to begin potty training?

Is there anything parents can do before the child begins potty training?

Is there anything parents can do before the child begins potty training?

At what age should a child start potty training?

At what age should a child start potty training?

What is the Potty Without Pressure method?

What is the Potty Without Pressure method?

What is the Fast Track method?

What is the Fast Track method?

What are the different types of potty training methods?

What are the different types of potty training methods?

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How to Potty Train Your Child

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Visit Dr. Rene at www.AskDrRene.com where she offers more free information on a wide range of parenting topics. Originally a full-time preschool teacher, Dr. Rene Hackney now holds a Master?s in school psychology and a PhD. in developmental psychology from George Mason University. She trained at the Developmental Clinic at Children's National Medical Center and for the public schools, teaching in parenting programs at each. She has also acted as a consultant to several area preschools.

For the last six years, Dr. Hackney has owned and lectured for Parenting Playgroups, Inc, a parenting resource center and preschool classroom in Alexandria Virginia. She has offered workshops to a wide range of parent, teacher and social work groups during this time. Workshop topics include eight hours on positive discipline techniques, five hours on early academic issues and common issues such as sibling rivalry and potty training. All workshops provide well researched lecture, in-class practice and open discussion time. Additionally she hosts a monthly parenting focused book club and fun play programs to introduce the preschool setting to young families. Dr. Hackney is married and has two young children of her own.

What can parents expect from their children during times of grief?

Parenting educator Dr. Rene Hackney talks about what parents can expect from their children during times of grief.

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Host: What can parents expect from their children during times of grief?

Rene Hackney: Young children during times of grief has what s called the short feeling span, it's like a short attention span where grief may came in spurts particularly for young children that three to about six or seven years old, they may find out that a very close loved one, maybe even a grandparent has passed away and they are devastated and really upset and they are cry hysterically for ten minutes and then they are off playing and then they are also having fun as if nothing happened and it may come and go throughout the week, or through the weeks.

So, they don t tend to be overwhelmed and sustained that for a long time like adults tend to do, we tend to harp on it and think about it for several days at a time where tears may come and go. It's also good to know that for young children that grief may come and go over a really period of time. When my younger daughter was in preschool, they had a bunny in their classroom, it's name was Cocospot, and she loved Cocospot. Well, Cocospot the very old bunny died the year, she was in preschool. A year later we saw a Titicap that looked like Cocospot and she burst into tears and was hysterical for about an hour just because she was reliving and rethinking and refeeling that. So, it's very normal for those feeling to come and go over a long period of time with young children.

Another thing that parents can do to help young children in the grieving process is to be sure they answer all of their children s questions. Answering questions in an honest, but simple way and then waiting for the next question. So, let's say you have a seven year old and grandpa has died and they say, Mommy, how did grandpa die? If you don t answer the question -- if you say, Oh, I can't talk about that right now or honey that s not anything you need to know, they fill in their blanks and they may come up with a lot of misconceptions. They may get really confused about what has happened.

If you give them too much information, if you give them the whole history of the medical diagnosis and what happened and what the doctors did in every minute, you may overwhelm them that s far more than they need. So, in saying something very simple like, grandpa s heart stopped and then the doctors tried to save him and they couldn t. So, it s answering the question, but being very simple. If they need more information likely, they will ask another question. Parents can also just allow a lot of downtime, a lot of quite time where there is time for them to be able to ask those questions, or saying once every day or two, Is there anything you want to ask me about, is there anything you need to know? So that child can have those opportunities for discussion.