Host: What is the third commandment of goal setting?
Gary Ryan Blair: The third commandment is thou shall welcome failure and at sometimes, this is a difficult one for people to accept, but failures guarantee to happen for a number of reasons and probably the best way to look at it, is simply to law of cause in effect. There are three cause and effect relationships. No cause, no effect, wrong cause, wrong effect and right cause, right effect.
What we will realize is that success leads clues and failure leads clues. When we talk about effects, we are talking about results, outcomes and if you trace anything back which you will realize is that those are the causative agents. The causes, the things that produce outcomes in your -- in your life, really are three things, it's what you think, it's what you say and it's what you do.
So, you believe systems, it's the words that you verbalize and it is the actions that you engage in. If failure takes place, it's the result of one those three things. What we need to do is we need to identify, now unless you get back and get back on a horse and take necessary corrective action.
But failure is going to happen, it's not negative, it just realize that, one person can look at it is the output of an unsuccessful activity. A high performer who will always look at it as the input for a successful activity and now, I just realize that failure provides you with fuel, it provides you with information, provides you with insights.
It simply means, that at a given period of time or a temporary situation, you made a move that was incorrect and the key is to stop, look at the failure, examine it, extract the lessons and then apply the new found knowledge. If we don't learn the lessons, we will continue to repeat the failure and unfortunately that is what a lot of people do.
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