What should I do if my children cry when they hear that we're separating?

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<span>An experienced family-law attorney, John Spiegel has devoted his practice exclusively to family mediation since 1996. John is a graduate of Yale Law School and has been active as a mediation trainer and presenter in Maryland and nationally. He served in 2003 and 2004 as President of the Maryland Council for Dispute Resolution (MCDR), a statewide ADR practitioners’ organization, and in 2005 – 2008 as President of the Montgomery County Divorce Roundtable, an interdisciplinary professional organization. John has published articles on mediation and law reform issues and has lobbied on behalf of these issues before the Maryland General Assembly. In 2001, he received recognition as a Certified Mediator from MCDR. The father of four children, John views mediation as a continuation of his legal work on behalf of children and families.</span>

What should I do if my children cry when they hear that we're separating?

 

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Host: What should I do if my children cry when they hear that we are separating?

John Spiegel: My view of this is that crying as well is laughing is part of a natural healing process that we have. Understandably, parents don't like to see their children to cry, they don't like to see their children suffer. When the message that's been conveyed is We are separating, our marriage is ending, we are going to get a divorce, parents of course are very sensitive to the feeling like what else that we are causing this pain.

So, they may wish that the crying would stop. My advice to people is that the crying should be treated as like blessing tears, well because it's part of the healing process.

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