What is a good definition of a "bad boy?"

What is a good definition of a "bad boy?"

Is it true that women are more attracted to bad boys than nice guys?

Is it true that women are more attracted to bad boys than nice guys?

What is it about bad boys that make them so irresistable?

What is it about bad boys that make them so irresistable?

What draws women to bad boys?

What draws women to bad boys?

Are there early warning signs that will help a woman identify a man as a bad boy?

Are there early warning signs that will help a woman identify a man as a bad boy?

Is it possible to turn a bad boy into a nice guy?

Is it possible to turn a bad boy into a nice guy?

How do you distinguish between the normal "wedding jitters" or if you should call it off?

How do you distinguish between the normal "wedding jitters" or if you should call it off?

What are some questions that couples can ask that help determine their readiness for marriage?

What are some questions that couples can ask that help determine their readiness for marriage?

What should couples discuss and address before making the decision to marry?

What should couples discuss and address before making the decision to marry?

How important is it to have your finances in order before taking the plunge?

How important is it to have your finances in order before taking the plunge?

Are there common red flags of a potentially bad engagement?

Are there common red flags of a potentially bad engagement?

What are the important elements of relationship readiness?

What are the important elements of relationship readiness?

Are there any "rules" about how long two people should date before deciding on marriage?

Are there any "rules" about how long two people should date before deciding on marriage?

Should we try to be friends after we break up?

Should we try to be friends after we break up?

What if they ask for more time or suggest counseling?

What if they ask for more time or suggest counseling?

Should you be completely honest when breaking up?

Should you be completely honest when breaking up?

How important is it to offer reasons for your desire to end things?

How important is it to offer reasons for your desire to end things?

Can I break up with someone by phone or email?

Can I break up with someone by phone or email?

Does the length and seriousness of the relationship determine how you should break-up?

Does the length and seriousness of the relationship determine how you should break-up?

Is this imbalance something that will take care of itself over time?

Is this imbalance something that will take care of itself over time?

How can I stay connected to friends and handle work responsibilities in a new relationship?

How can I stay connected to friends and handle work responsibilities in a new relationship?

What "formula" can I use to divide my time between work and friends and a relationship?

What "formula" can I use to divide my time between work and friends and a relationship?

What are the most cited problem behaviors associated with this kind of imbalance?

What are the most cited problem behaviors associated with this kind of imbalance?

Should we expect our friends to understand that our new love interest is our first priority?

Should we expect our friends to understand that our new love interest is our first priority?

Is it normal to devote more time to a new love relationship than to one's work and friendships?

Is it normal to devote more time to a new love relationship than to one's work and friendships?

Is lack of balance more of an issue for people in committed love relationships than others?

Is lack of balance more of an issue for people in committed love relationships than others?

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How to Balance a Relationship with Work and Friends

Who should make the arrangements and pay during a first date?

Who should make the arrangements and pay during a first date?

Are there any guidelines for setting up the first meeting when dating online?

Are there any guidelines for setting up the first meeting when dating online?

How long should you email before sharing personal information when dating online?

How long should you email before sharing personal information when dating online?

What are your top 3 tips for making that first online contact?

What are your top 3 tips for making that first online contact?

What are some red flags you should look out for in other profiles?

What are some red flags you should look out for in other profiles?

What are the most important "don'ts" when writing your profile for online dating?

What are the most important "don'ts" when writing your profile for online dating?

What are the most important "do's" for writing a personal ad online?

What are the most important "do's" for writing a personal ad online?

If the relationship ends, how do you keep this from negatively impacting work?

If the relationship ends, how do you keep this from negatively impacting work?

How do you keep business and work away from your private time together?

How do you keep business and work away from your private time together?

How do you deal with co-workers, bosses, clients and others who know about the relationship?

How do you deal with co-workers, bosses, clients and others who know about the relationship?

How does an office couple keep their romantic relationship from impacting their work relationship?

How does an office couple keep their romantic relationship from impacting their work relationship?

If your company has a policy prohibiting office dating, do you go ahead anyway and keep it a secret?

If your company has a policy prohibiting office dating, do you go ahead anyway and keep it a secret?

What are some pros and cons of office relationships?

What are some pros and cons of office relationships?

Are there any true "no-no's" for office relationships?

Are there any true "no-no's" for office relationships?

How prevalent are office romances?

How prevalent are office romances?

Can chemistry grow over time in a relationship?

Can chemistry grow over time in a relationship?

Can you create chemistry in an area where it's lacking?

Can you create chemistry in an area where it's lacking?

Can a relationship thrive when one component of this chemistry is missing?

Can a relationship thrive when one component of this chemistry is missing?

Must the right chemistry be present immediately to know if he or she is "the one?"

Must the right chemistry be present immediately to know if he or she is "the one?"

Is a strong friendship a good basis for an intimate relationship?

Is a strong friendship a good basis for an intimate relationship?

Do you need to share a similar background, ideas and ideologies in a relationship?

Do you need to share a similar background, ideas and ideologies in a relationship?

How does chemistry in intimate relationships differ from chemistry in other relationships?

How does chemistry in intimate relationships differ from chemistry in other relationships?

What is relationship chemistry?

What is relationship chemistry?

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How to Know if Your Relationship has Keeper Chemistry

How do you know if someone is attracted to you by their body language?

How do you know if someone is attracted to you by their body language?

What are some ways to know if someone is not attracted to you by their body language?

What are some ways to know if someone is not attracted to you by their body language?

Can you give some examples of good body language for a first date?

Can you give some examples of good body language for a first date?

What are some examples of body language that can push others away?

What are some examples of body language that can push others away?

How can effective use of body language make us more attractive to others?

How can effective use of body language make us more attractive to others?

What is a more important ability, to read or speak good body language?

What is a more important ability, to read or speak good body language?

How important is our body language in our ability to communicate effectively?

How important is our body language in our ability to communicate effectively?

What exactly is body language and how do we speak it?

What exactly is body language and how do we speak it?

Is it possible to turn a bad boy into a nice guy?

Is it possible to turn a bad boy into a nice guy?

Are there early warning signs that will help a woman identify a man as a bad boy?

Are there early warning signs that will help a woman identify a man as a bad boy?

What draws women to bad boys?

What draws women to bad boys?

What is it about bad boys that make them so irresistable?

What is it about bad boys that make them so irresistable?

Is it true that women are more attracted to bad boys than nice guys?

Is it true that women are more attracted to bad boys than nice guys?

What is a good definition of a "bad boy?"

What is a good definition of a "bad boy?"

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Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including; The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Woman's Day, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men's Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), People, and Nirvana magazines. She has been featured on abcnews.com, discovery.health.com, aolnews.com, MSN.com, Match.com and planetearthradio.com. Toni is also the featured relationship coach in “The Business And Practice Of Coaching,” (published by Norton, September 2005); and is the author of the forward for,” Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time” ( published by Simon and Schuster, November 2005). Toni offers dating and relationship help and advice through her syndicated column, "Dear Dating Coach," and her popular monthly newsletter, "The Art of Intimacy." From March 2005 until December 2005, she was a weekly contributing commentator (love and dating coach) on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.

What is a good definition of a "bad boy?"

Dating and relationship coach Toni Coleman discusses the definition of a bad boy, and how to know if you're dating one.

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Hi, I am Toni Coleman and I am a Psychotherapist and a dating and relationship coach and today, we are talking about great meeting, dating and relating tips and now, we are going to talk a little bit about bad boys and how to tell bad boys from good guys.

Host: What is a good definition of a "Bad Boy"?

Toni Coleman: The best way to describe a bad boy is through the traits that we see because there are many and varied and it depends on the bad boys. So, it is like one side doesn't fit all. It is really hard to give just a distinct definition. Bad boys are the kind of guys that make a date and don't show up or they show up really late. They are the kind of guys that take a woman out and then suddenly don't have their wallet and "Gee, I do not know what I am going to do and I can't pay.

" She has to pay for everything. They are the kind of guys that are usually unreliable perhaps, they are borrowing money from her, perhaps they are guys that she finds out from her friends when they were supposed to be home studying, they were really out with another woman at the club that they usually frequent. They are the kind of guys that just -- they are often telling you one thing but doing another, they are inconsistent, they are unreliable they are, they can be downright really bad and there are lots of stories like that of guys that are just, they take the woman and wine her and dine her and woo her and get almost up to the wedding day and he skipped town with $75,000 and that kind of thing. That's on the extreme end. Like I said, most bad boys fall into the unreliable, not there for her, maybe playing around kind of category.