What is a more important ability, to read or speak good body language?

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Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including; The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Woman's Day, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men's Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), People, and Nirvana magazines. She has been featured on abcnews.com, discovery.health.com, aolnews.com, MSN.com, Match.com and planetearthradio.com. Toni is also the featured relationship coach in “The Business And Practice Of Coaching,” (published by Norton, September 2005); and is the author of the forward for,” Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time” ( published by Simon and Schuster, November 2005). Toni offers dating and relationship help and advice through her syndicated column, "Dear Dating Coach," and her popular monthly newsletter, "The Art of Intimacy." From March 2005 until December 2005, she was a weekly contributing commentator (love and dating coach) on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.

What is a more important ability, to read or speak good body language?

 

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Speaker: What is a more important ability, to read or speak good body language?

Toni Coleman: I think, it's almost more important to be able to speak body language than it is to read it. Of course that being said, if you are not reading it and you are letting it be in the dark a lot about what people are really feeling and how to respond to them; so it's almost as though they're evenly weighted, certainly in the new situation and dating situation, being aware of your body language and really focusing on what you are saying and how you are saying it, giving people the impression that you are confident, that you are comfortable, that you are happy to be there, showing an interest in what they are saying. Those kinds of things are going to bring back more positive language from them and are going to help them to feel better around you and then that is what of course you would be receiving; but, I think in any new situation speaking it and being aware of what you are saying is probably the first thing and then in time developing more of an ability to really pickup on what's going on with the people around you.

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