What are some examples of body language that can push others away?

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Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including; The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Woman's Day, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men's Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), People, and Nirvana magazines. She has been featured on abcnews.com, discovery.health.com, aolnews.com, MSN.com, Match.com and planetearthradio.com. Toni is also the featured relationship coach in “The Business And Practice Of Coaching,” (published by Norton, September 2005); and is the author of the forward for,” Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time” ( published by Simon and Schuster, November 2005). Toni offers dating and relationship help and advice through her syndicated column, "Dear Dating Coach," and her popular monthly newsletter, "The Art of Intimacy." From March 2005 until December 2005, she was a weekly contributing commentator (love and dating coach) on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.

What are some examples of body language that can push others away?

 

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Speaker: What are some examples of body language that can push others away?

Toni Coleman: Some real classic examples of turn off kinds of nonverbal expression would be the person, who is, stand there with you doing this or the person who goes to a social event or mix or goes in the corner and he is leaning back into the wall or perhaps hunched over like this. Then there is the one that comes walking into the room and they're slouched and they're looking at the floor, and they're not wanting to make any kind of eye contact or it's the person that if you introduce yourself, they kind of maybe very furtively glance at you and do this or something, but they are tensed and they are not really focusing or the person who you are trying to have a conversation with in a social situation and they're looking around the room; they're looking at their watch; they're attending to anything, but you, that kind of thing; all of those because they communicate insecurity, they communicate lack of interest, they communicate somebody who just may be isn't comfortable in their own skin or somebody who is trying to hide someone, someone who just doesn't want to be there, all negative. Perhaps they don't even feel that way, perhaps they are just shy, perhaps that they have just never done this kind of thing before and by not paying attention to the signals they're sending. They're sending the message that they just really don't want to be there and they don't like being there, wrong message.

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