Are there any true "no-no's" for office relationships?

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Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including; The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Woman's Day, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men's Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), People, and Nirvana magazines. She has been featured on abcnews.com, discovery.health.com, aolnews.com, MSN.com, Match.com and planetearthradio.com. Toni is also the featured relationship coach in “The Business And Practice Of Coaching,” (published by Norton, September 2005); and is the author of the forward for,” Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time” ( published by Simon and Schuster, November 2005). Toni offers dating and relationship help and advice through her syndicated column, "Dear Dating Coach," and her popular monthly newsletter, "The Art of Intimacy." From March 2005 until December 2005, she was a weekly contributing commentator (love and dating coach) on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.

Are there any true "no-no's" for office relationships?

 

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Speaker: Are there any true 'no-nos'. for office relationships?

Toni Coleman: I think the first real no-no would be when the office has the policy prohibiting, specifically prohibiting any kind of contact between people outside of the work environment, especially dating, that kind of thing. That does exist in certain environments for certain reasons. In other offices, they might have policies that govern who can date who, if someone is working for you that you are not allowed to date them while they are working for you or if they are client of the company perhaps then that is the big no, no that you are not allowed to see them at least long as they are client. So those kinds of situations are generally considered pretty big no-nos, doesn't mean people don't cross those lines, but it's a very kind of slippery slope. Another obvious no-no for any environment, whether there is a policy or not, is when you are dating somebody who works directly under you or somebody who you work for and the reasons for this are really pretty obvious. It definitely would be hard to supervise somebody, be in the role of their supervisor and doing evaluation on them and deal with problems that might be existing with their work if you are dating them. If they are your boss to be able to kind of stay enroll when you are in the office and deal with them as your supervisor, when you have a very different intimate relationship outside of work, very difficult and very often when these things occur as they do too frequently, people in the immediate environment have an awareness of them and then that can lead to all sorts of other issues.

So I would say those are the two biggest no-nos.

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