Who should make the arrangements and pay during a first date?

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Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including; The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Woman's Day, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men's Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), People, and Nirvana magazines. She has been featured on abcnews.com, discovery.health.com, aolnews.com, MSN.com, Match.com and planetearthradio.com. Toni is also the featured relationship coach in “The Business And Practice Of Coaching,” (published by Norton, September 2005); and is the author of the forward for,” Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time” ( published by Simon and Schuster, November 2005). Toni offers dating and relationship help and advice through her syndicated column, "Dear Dating Coach," and her popular monthly newsletter, "The Art of Intimacy." From March 2005 until December 2005, she was a weekly contributing commentator (love and dating coach) on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.

Who should make the arrangements and pay during a first date?

 

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Host: Who should make the arrangements and pay?

Toni Coleman: Because it is online dating it is very different than your traditional dating scenario where somebody asks somebody out, they make the arrangements, there is an expectation that they will pay, unless it is discussed ahead of time. This is different. You have come to this place together and you have been talking or e-mailing about what you are going to do and you are both giving input. Most likely, both people will come up with a venues and will suggest what they are going to do and choose it together and make arrangements to get there on their own, that kind of thing. So, it is really a Dutch situation and if you think about the potential for meeting so many people online, it is also much more practical in that you are going to be perhaps meeting a lot of new people and having a lot of these first dates. So, the expectation should be that they will split the cheque and that they will make their own transportation arrangements. So, it is more like a Dutch thing. They have come there to meet each other and to see what they think.

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