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What is the third trap?

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    im a man that is done with the hole get married and have kids im not trying to populat the world thare is enof of that going on in the world as it is im a simple man with three kids that are not of my blood line me and my wife are geting a devirce becuse im not in touch with my emotions i still love her if thare is such a thing but she was a long time friend and now still is that and i give help to the keds that are mine but not mine by blood we was maried for 5 yrs what happed to me was bad in

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Host: What is the third trap?

Gloria Macdonald: The third trap we have been falling to is the old friends with benefits. Now, this might seem like a fantastic idea, you have got two people, they know each other, they like each other, they might have been former boyfriend and girlfriend or sometimes even former husband and wife. So, hey, why not have sex? It is better then having sex with a complete and total stranger. That way, you are both fulfilling a need for one another. It sounds great, but the challenge is if we go back to what a woman needs for that chemistry and attractiveness in order to truly have a fulfilling sexual experience, the friends with benefits is missing two key ingredients.

It is missing the long term potential which just isn't there and it is missing the commitment for a monogamous emotional commitment. So, in absence of that investment from the partner women try to create the investment and the investment is just not there. So, we fool ourselves into believing that maybe, maybe, maybe someday the investment will be there, we fool ourselves into seeing things that we think are potential investment when it is really not truly not there. No matter what we are just wired for this investment and we are looking for it. So, the friends with benefits sounds like a great idea but so often, we fool ourselves and we end up getting emotionally involved even when we are trying to tell ourselves we are not, not the best of ideas.

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