Relationship Flight School - Knowing vs Understanding

Relationship Flight School - Knowing vs Understanding

Do you know how to read the instrument panel?

Do you know how to read the instrument panel?

Are you flying with low visibility, or do you really understand why your partner does something?

Are you flying with low visibility, or do you really understand why your partner does something?

Do you understand your partner's personality traits, values and characteristics?

Do you understand your partner's personality traits, values and characteristics?

So what's the rule for solving the problem of low visibility in a relationship?

So what's the rule for solving the problem of low visibility in a relationship?

Doesn't love conquer all?

Doesn't love conquer all?

What can I do when a problem or conflict arises within an interracial or intercultural relationship?

What can I do when a problem or conflict arises within an interracial or intercultural relationship?

What are some experiences I can expect from an interracial or intercultural relationship?

What are some experiences I can expect from an interracial or intercultural relationship?

In an interracial or intercultural relationship, can my partner and I learn to understand each other?

In an interracial or intercultural relationship, can my partner and I learn to understand each other?

 Are there tips to making an interracial or intercultural relationship work any differently than any other relationship?

Are there tips to making an interracial or intercultural relationship work any differently than any other relationship?

How would in-laws, grandchildren and grandparents all relate to one another in an interracial or intercultural relations

How would in-laws, grandchildren and grandparents all relate to one another in an interracial or intercultural relations

How should we determine our values regarding education, religion and raising children?

How should we determine our values regarding education, religion and raising children?

If we want to have children together, how should we consider raising them?

If we want to have children together, how should we consider raising them?

How will our separate communities accept our relationship?

How will our separate communities accept our relationship?

How should I expect our friends to accept our relationship?

How should I expect our friends to accept our relationship?

How should I expect our families to accept our relationship?

How should I expect our families to accept our relationship?

What if one person will have to move and leave their culture or country?

What if one person will have to move and leave their culture or country?

 What kinds of existing problems within a current relationship should be considered?

What kinds of existing problems within a current relationship should be considered?

What are points to consider about differences in your values?

What are points to consider about differences in your values?

What similarities or differences may attract you to your partner?

What similarities or differences may attract you to your partner?

What are points to consider about our backgrounds?

What are points to consider about our backgrounds?

What are points to consider about our differences?

What are points to consider about our differences?

Should we consider what we have in common and what's the same about us?

Should we consider what we have in common and what's the same about us?

What are the long term implications of interracial or intercultural relationships?

What are the long term implications of interracial or intercultural relationships?

Why would someone be attracted to someone from another race or culture?

Why would someone be attracted to someone from another race or culture?

What if partners come from different cultures and speak a different first language?

What if partners come from different cultures and speak a different first language?

What if you speak the same language, were both born and raised in the same country but are different races?

What if you speak the same language, were both born and raised in the same country but are different races?

What if a couples' difference is religious or cultural?

What if a couples' difference is religious or cultural?

What if you were both raised in the same country, speak the same language, but are from different cultures because one o

What if you were both raised in the same country, speak the same language, but are from different cultures because one o

What if you are the same race, speak the same language, but come from a different culture or country?

What if you are the same race, speak the same language, but come from a different culture or country?

Why do our differences seem to matter?

Why do our differences seem to matter?

Are there degrees of difference between interracial and intercultural relationships?

Are there degrees of difference between interracial and intercultural relationships?

What about prejudices?

What about prejudices?

Are interracial and intercultural relationships getting easier or more challenging today?

Are interracial and intercultural relationships getting easier or more challenging today?

Are interracial or intercultural relationships more challenging than relationships where both partners are from the same

Are interracial or intercultural relationships more challenging than relationships where both partners are from the same

Can interracial and intercultural relationships work?

Can interracial and intercultural relationships work?

Understanding the Challenges of Interracial and Intercultural Relationships

Understanding the Challenges of Interracial and Intercultural Relationships

What is the rule for solving the problem of learning how to land in a relationship?

What is the rule for solving the problem of learning how to land in a relationship?

Do you have to make sacrifices to have a committed relationship?

Do you have to make sacrifices to have a committed relationship?

What do you have to do have a long lasting, fulfilling relationship?

What do you have to do have a long lasting, fulfilling relationship?

Is it possible to have  a wonderful relationship?

Is it possible to have a wonderful relationship?

Why do so many relationships fail?

Why do so many relationships fail?

Relationship Flight School - Optional Take Off, Mandatory Landing

Relationship Flight School - Optional Take Off, Mandatory Landing

So what's the rule for solving the problem of low visibility in a relationship?

So what's the rule for solving the problem of low visibility in a relationship?

Do you understand your partner's personality traits, values and characteristics?

Do you understand your partner's personality traits, values and characteristics?

Are you flying with low visibility, or do you really understand why your partner does something?

Are you flying with low visibility, or do you really understand why your partner does something?

Do you know how to read the instrument panel?

Do you know how to read the instrument panel?

Relationship Flight School - Knowing vs Understanding

Relationship Flight School - Knowing vs Understanding

So what's the rule for solving the problem of turbulence in a relationship?

So what's the rule for solving the problem of turbulence in a relationship?

What's the biggest obstacle in having a peaceful, turbulent-free relationship?

What's the biggest obstacle in having a peaceful, turbulent-free relationship?

How do you create a safe place for your partner?

How do you create a safe place for your partner?

How do you deal with turbulence in a relationship?

How do you deal with turbulence in a relationship?

Who's responsible for the overall success of a relationship?

Who's responsible for the overall success of a relationship?

Relationship Flight School - Taking Responsibility

Relationship Flight School - Taking Responsibility

Sometimes it seems like men don't communicate at all. How do they communicate?

Sometimes it seems like men don't communicate at all. How do they communicate?

How do we solve this problem of different priorities?

How do we solve this problem of different priorities?

Do men and women have different priorities?

Do men and women have different priorities?

What are the crosswinds of relationships?

What are the crosswinds of relationships?

Relationship Flight School - Understanding Men

Relationship Flight School - Understanding Men

What causes relationship problems?

What causes relationship problems?

If relationships are so difficult, why do we keep getting into them?

If relationships are so difficult, why do we keep getting into them?

How are relationships like flying?

How are relationships like flying?

Relationship Flight School

Relationship Flight School

What if you're a woman and you haven't had sex with someone new in 15 years or more?

What if you're a woman and you haven't had sex with someone new in 15 years or more?

What should you do to protect yourself in a new relationship?

What should you do to protect yourself in a new relationship?

What is the fourth trap?

What is the fourth trap?

What is the third trap?

What is the third trap?

What is the second trap?

What is the second trap?

Are there "traps" women fall into when it comes to sex?

Are there "traps" women fall into when it comes to sex?

Are men just less evolved than women when it comes to relationships and sex?

Are men just less evolved than women when it comes to relationships and sex?

So are men and women approaching sex from opposite ends of the spectrum?

So are men and women approaching sex from opposite ends of the spectrum?

What are men looking for in woman before they'll have sex?

What are men looking for in woman before they'll have sex?

What are women looking for in a man before they'll have sex?

What are women looking for in a man before they'll have sex?

Are men and women different when it comes to attraction and chemistry?

Are men and women different when it comes to attraction and chemistry?

Are there any secrets to creating rapport with a man?

Are there any secrets to creating rapport with a man?

What are men looking for in a date?

What are men looking for in a date?

Should women being pursuing men?

Should women being pursuing men?

Why do men hunt?

Why do men hunt?

What is the "Elusive In-Love Group" of women?

What is the "Elusive In-Love Group" of women?

What is the "Serial Monogamist Group" of women?

What is the "Serial Monogamist Group" of women?

What is the "The 60 and Over Crowd" of women?

What is the "The 60 and Over Crowd" of women?

What is the "Foot Loose and Fancy Free Group" of women?

What is the "Foot Loose and Fancy Free Group" of women?

What is the "Single Moms Group" of women?

What is the "Single Moms Group" of women?

What is the "Ticking Clock Group" of women?

What is the "Ticking Clock Group" of women?

Do all women over 35 face the same challenges in dating?

Do all women over 35 face the same challenges in dating?

What do you do when your children whom are adults don't like the person you're dating?

What do you do when your children whom are adults don't like the person you're dating?

What do you do if you're an adult and don't like your parent's significant other?

What do you do if you're an adult and don't like your parent's significant other?

What do you do when there's a power struggle between your child and your new partner?

What do you do when there's a power struggle between your child and your new partner?

What should I do if my child does not like who I am dating?

What should I do if my child does not like who I am dating?

If my children live at home when can I have the person I'm dating stay over night?

If my children live at home when can I have the person I'm dating stay over night?

When do I introduce the person I'm dating to my children?

When do I introduce the person I'm dating to my children?

Do single parents with kids have to meet other singles with kids?

Do single parents with kids have to meet other singles with kids?

Is dating more difficult for single moms or dads?

Is dating more difficult for single moms or dads?

Do women do anything to hurt their chances of finding a wonderful man?

Do women do anything to hurt their chances of finding a wonderful man?

How does age really impact dating?

How does age really impact dating?

Do men always want younger women?

Do men always want younger women?

If dating and finding a man is so difficult, why do we do it?

If dating and finding a man is so difficult, why do we do it?

Why does dating seem more difficult for women over 40?

Why does dating seem more difficult for women over 40?

Is dating different if you're over 40?

Is dating different if you're over 40?

How do I create a romantic atmosphere?

How do I create a romantic atmosphere?

If you just got out of a relationship, what should you do for Valentine's Day?

If you just got out of a relationship, what should you do for Valentine's Day?

What if you don't care about Valentine's Day?

What if you don't care about Valentine's Day?

What should singles do for Valentine's Day?

What should singles do for Valentine's Day?

What are some romantic places we should go for Valentine's Day?

What are some romantic places we should go for Valentine's Day?

What kinds of food should I make for Valentine's Day?

What kinds of food should I make for Valentine's Day?

Should we go out to dinner or stay in for Valentine's Day?

Should we go out to dinner or stay in for Valentine's Day?

What are some ways to have a unique Valentine's Day?

What are some ways to have a unique Valentine's Day?

What kind of gift should I get my significant other for Valentine's Day?

What kind of gift should I get my significant other for Valentine's Day?

How can I make Valentine's Day special and romantic for my significant other?

How can I make Valentine's Day special and romantic for my significant other?

How to Have a Romantic Valentine's Day

How to Have a Romantic Valentine's Day

What should men be thinking about?

What should men be thinking about?

How can I act confident, successful, intelligent & interesting?

How can I act confident, successful, intelligent & interesting?

What's more important- how you look or how you act?

What's more important- how you look or how you act?

How can a man make a good first impression?

How can a man make a good first impression?

What are women looking for?

What are women looking for?

Why are first impressions so important?

Why are first impressions so important?

Why is it important for a man to prepare for a date?

Why is it important for a man to prepare for a date?

What should women be thinking about?

What should women be thinking about?

Is there anything else that men are looking for?

Is there anything else that men are looking for?

How can you appear more approachable?

How can you appear more approachable?

What should I wear on my date?

What should I wear on my date?

What else is visually important?

What else is visually important?

How do you look your most attractive?

How do you look your most attractive?

How does body shape fit in with looking youthful & healthy?

How does body shape fit in with looking youthful & healthy?

Is it important to look youthful and healthy?

Is it important to look youthful and healthy?

Can the term "attractiveness" be taken out of context?

Can the term "attractiveness" be taken out of context?

Why are men so visual?

Why are men so visual?

What are men looking for?

What are men looking for?

How does a good first impression start?

How does a good first impression start?

Why are first impressions so important?

Why are first impressions so important?

Why is it important for women to prepare for a date?

Why is it important for women to prepare for a date?

How can I learn more about the 7 attitudes of highly successful daters?

How can I learn more about the 7 attitudes of highly successful daters?

What is the first thing I should do with the 7 attitudes?

What is the first thing I should do with the 7 attitudes?

What's the best way to put the 7 attitudes into action?

What's the best way to put the 7 attitudes into action?

What is the seventh attitude of dating?

What is the seventh attitude of dating?

What is the sixth attitude of dating?

What is the sixth attitude of dating?

What is the fifth attitude of dating?

What is the fifth attitude of dating?

What is the fourth attitude of dating?

What is the fourth attitude of dating?

What is the third attitude of dating?

What is the third attitude of dating?

What is the second attitude of dating?

What is the second attitude of dating?

What are the seven attitudes of highly successful daters?

What are the seven attitudes of highly successful daters?

Is there anything that guarantees success in dating?

Is there anything that guarantees success in dating?

The Seven Attitudes of Highly Successful Daters

The Seven Attitudes of Highly Successful Daters

When can I be sure if I've found the right person?

When can I be sure if I've found the right person?

What would be an example of these twelve key values?

What would be an example of these twelve key values?

What is the twelfth  key value for compatibility?

What is the twelfth key value for compatibility?

What is the eleventh key value for compatibility?

What is the eleventh key value for compatibility?

What is the tenth key value for compatibility?

What is the tenth key value for compatibility?

What is the ninth key value for compatibility?

What is the ninth key value for compatibility?

What is the eighth key value for compatibility?

What is the eighth key value for compatibility?

What is the seventh key value for compatibility?

What is the seventh key value for compatibility?

What is the sixth key value for compatibility?

What is the sixth key value for compatibility?

What is the fifth key value for compatibility?

What is the fifth key value for compatibility?

What is the fourth key value for compatibility?

What is the fourth key value for compatibility?

What is the third key value for compatibility?

What is the third key value for compatibility?

What is the second key value for compatibility?

What is the second key value for compatibility?

What is the first key value for compatibility?

What is the first key value for compatibility?

How do I know if I'm really compatible?

How do I know if I'm really compatible?

Do opposites really attract?

Do opposites really attract?

Can someone really grow on you?

Can someone really grow on you?

What do we do after we become aware of this chemistry?

What do we do after we become aware of this chemistry?

So what about chemistry?

So what about chemistry?

Is there an instant chemistry?

Is there an instant chemistry?

How do you know if you've found the right person?

How do you know if you've found the right person?

Does the Prince Charming test work?

Does the Prince Charming test work?

What makes a date?

What makes a date?

What is the seventh deadly dating sin for women?

What is the seventh deadly dating sin for women?

What is the sixth deadly dating sin for women?

What is the sixth deadly dating sin for women?

What is the fifth deadly dating sin for women?

What is the fifth deadly dating sin for women?

What is the fourth deadly dating sin for women?

What is the fourth deadly dating sin for women?

What is the third deadly dating sin for women?

What is the third deadly dating sin for women?

What is the second deadly dating sin for women?

What is the second deadly dating sin for women?

What is the first deadly dating sin for women?

What is the first deadly dating sin for women?

What are women looking for?

What are women looking for?

Are there rules for the date for women?

Are there rules for the date for women?

The Seven Deadly Dating Sins for Women

The Seven Deadly Dating Sins for Women

How long do I have to be Prince Charming?

How long do I have to be Prince Charming?

What is the seventh deadly dating sin for men?

What is the seventh deadly dating sin for men?

What is the sixth deadly dating sin for men?

What is the sixth deadly dating sin for men?

What is the fifth deadly dating sin for men?

What is the fifth deadly dating sin for men?

What is the fourth deadly dating sin for men?

What is the fourth deadly dating sin for men?

What is the third deadly dating sin for men?

What is the third deadly dating sin for men?

What is the second deadly dating sin for men?

What is the second deadly dating sin for men?

What is the first deadly dating sin for men?

What is the first deadly dating sin for men?

What do men do wrong?

What do men do wrong?

What do women want?

What do women want?

Are there rules for the date for men?

Are there rules for the date for men?

The Seven Deadly Dating Sins for Men

The Seven Deadly Dating Sins for Men

Is it okay to speak badly of the person I've broken up with?

Is it okay to speak badly of the person I've broken up with?

What are some ways to move on after a break up?

What are some ways to move on after a break up?

Is friendship a possibility after a break up?

Is friendship a possibility after a break up?

How do I cope with a break up?

How do I cope with a break up?

How should I break up with someone?

How should I break up with someone?

How do I know when to break up with someone?

How do I know when to break up with someone?

What do I do at the end of the date?

What do I do at the end of the date?

Who should pay for the second date?

Who should pay for the second date?

Where should we meet for the second date?

Where should we meet for the second date?

Who should initiate the second date?

Who should initiate the second date?

How do I know when to give the goodnight kiss?

How do I know when to give the goodnight kiss?

How do I end a relationship after the third date?

How do I end a relationship after the third date?

Why do people say they're going to call but don't?

Why do people say they're going to call but don't?

What do I do if I'm interested in seeing my date again?

What do I do if I'm interested in seeing my date again?

How do I transfer my flirting skills into the dating scene?

How do I transfer my flirting skills into the dating scene?

What are the four keys to flirting success?

What are the four keys to flirting success?

What is the fourth flirting exercise?

What is the fourth flirting exercise?

What is the third flirting exercise?

What is the third flirting exercise?

What is the second flirting exercise?

What is the second flirting exercise?

What do I do after I've made my list?

What do I do after I've made my list?

What is the first flirting exercise?

What is the first flirting exercise?

Are there differences between male flirting and female flirting?

Are there differences between male flirting and female flirting?

What are some reasons for flirting?

What are some reasons for flirting?

Why do we have to flirt?

Why do we have to flirt?

What is flirting?

What is flirting?

How do I know if there is an instant chemistry?

How do I know if there is an instant chemistry?

How do I know if my date is not attracted to me?

How do I know if my date is not attracted to me?

How do I know if my date is attracted to me?

How do I know if my date is attracted to me?

How do I know that I am on a dead end date?

How do I know that I am on a dead end date?

How do I deal with a dead end date?

How do I deal with a dead end date?

How do I end a first meeting?

How do I end a first meeting?

Are there important things I should do on my first meeting?

Are there important things I should do on my first meeting?

What are some things I should avoid during a conversation?

What are some things I should avoid during a conversation?

Should I set up a safety phone call during a date?

Should I set up a safety phone call during a date?

Is there an etiquette I should follow while on a date?

Is there an etiquette I should follow while on a date?

Should I set goals for myself on the first date?

Should I set goals for myself on the first date?

Should I have expectations on my first meeting?

Should I have expectations on my first meeting?

What should I do on my first meeting?

What should I do on my first meeting?

How do I know if this style of dating is right for me?

How do I know if this style of dating is right for me?

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What are some challenges with online dating?

What are some pros and cons to online dating?

What are some pros and cons to online dating?

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Gloria MacDonald

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Gloria MacDonald is the founder and President of Perfect Partners, The Personal Relationship Executive Search Firm, a highly successful, personalized matchmaking service. Gloria has interviewed hundreds and hundreds of single men and women and has introduced over 1500 couples. She is an expert in the field of dating and relationships, having appeared on a variety of TV and radio shows. She’s the co-author of the highly acclaimed book Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40. She believes, and has seen through her work, that there is a perfect partner for anyone of us who truly desires to find that relationship, believes they can have it, and are willing to accept it. Gloria is an engaging and dynamic speaker and trainer who changes lives. Testimonials from people who have attended Gloria’s seminars: “Gloria uses her exceptional knowledge of real world dating and her unique and exciting style to inspire women to not give up. Truly a wonderful presenter. I would highly recommend anything she does now and in the future.” “This is the information single women and men have been waiting for.” “A truly engaging seminar. You are obviously an expert on the topic. Your knowledge, compassion, sensitivity and forthrightness was spiced with humour to create a clean and practical approach to relationship success.” “Attending your seminar has truly been an inspiration. YOU ARE AN AMAZING TRAINER!”

Do you understand your partner's personality traits, values and characteristics?

Relationship expert Gloria MacDonald discusses her relationship flight school, including whether or not you really understand your partner's personality traits, values, and characteristics.

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Host: Do you understand your partner's personality traits, values and characteristics? Gloria MacDonald: So, we just talked about understanding your partner in terms of their love language, but there is a whole another aspect to this also and that is really, understanding their personality traits, their characteristics, some of those built-in values. I have talked a lot about this in another section on dating on how do you know if you have found the right one? So, you can go there to really understand more about each one of these traits, but they are really important because for example, let's say my husband is always early. Well, that can be really frustrating because he can always be nagging at me because I am not there early instead of on time.

Now, if I understand him and understand that one of his traits is that he is low on flexibility, that he is very punctual and it's really important him to be punctual and he has got schedules and he has got order in his life and having order in his life is really important then instead if allowing something like that to bother me and nag at me and irritate me and create problems, the more I have that visibility into the instrument panel and understand how he is wired, the more I can just let that go and say, "Okay, I can accept that.

" You know what he is not right, he is not wrong, it's not better, it's not worse, it's just different and so much about this learning to read your partner and understanding them is understanding that they are different. Again, it's not that one person is right or wrong or good or bad or better or worse, it's just that we are all wired differently. So, just to give you a sense of these 12 qualities, attributes, personality traits.

The first one is introversion versus extroversion. Some of us are just extroverts and other people are introverts and it's important to know that about your partner where are they and this is a lot about how they are actually going to communicate to you. The introvert is not going to be as expressive as the extrovert is.

The second thing is connection. So, people at different levels need to spend time with people and really connect with people. Some people are more loners. Some people get all their energy from being with another person. So, again, know your partner, understand what your partner is and that way you will understand why they do certain things they do. It makes life so much easier.

The next thing is flexibility. Some people are highly, highly spontaneous other people are really planners and again, the more you understand your partner the easier it will make life. The next thing is parenting. People have very different views on parenting and whether you are ever going to have children in your lives or not, this will always have an impact just on how you live life because whether you are going to have children or not, you will definitely be in situations. It might be in a restaurant where there are other children around. Some people think children are meant to be seen and not heard and other people think children should just be let loosened, be able to express themselves. So, it's important to know where your partner is on that.

The next trait is optimism versus realism and this one is really, really important because it goes to how you view everything in life. Does one person see the world totally with rose colored glasses and the glass is always half full or absolutely overflowing and the other person is much more realistic in maybe even pessimistic because there are those people who are pessimist. So, again, the more you understand your partner and why they are reacting the way they are reacting to something or why they do something, the more you could be accepting of the differences between the two of you.

The next thing is action orientation. Some people just have a very, very, very high energy level and need lots of action in their lives. Other people have a lower energy level and they absolutely need downtime. So, again, the more you understand where your partner is on that. The more you can support them in whatever their needs are. The next trait is care giving and it's really about how you would care maybe for aging parents or a sick child or even an ailing pet. It's about nurturing. Some people have widely differing views on this and this one causes huge amounts of friction. Should an aging parent live with you or should they be in a nursing home? So, it's important to understand where your partner is on that.

The next trait is the value around arts and beauty. Some people really have a sense of inspiration and they need to be around beautiful things. They get inspired, they get revitalized by seeing color and design and beauty around them and other people really are very low on it and they are almost immune to it if you will. So, again, it's really important to understand your partner's value around that. The next thing is intellectualism. So, for example, does your partner spend all their time reading? Do they love to do research and are they fascinated by facts and figures and history and constant learning or are they more of a people person and they really want to spend all their time just chatting and socializing and things like that? Again, this is a value and there is no right, there is no wrong, there is no good, there is no bad, there is no better or worse. We are just different.

Another trait is expressiveness and it really has to do with how much does a person express their feelings and emotions outwardly, are they going to talk about them, are they are going to show their feelings? Some people believe that feelings are not to be shared with other people, that they are private and they should be kept to yourself and other people feel like they have got to let everything out, that's the only way they could possibly live is to let everything out and to be really communicating and expressing with their partner.

So again, one isn't right and one isn't wrong. They are just different and if you don't understand how your partner is wired then you might not understand if they are not expressing their feelings, if they are not constantly saying 'I love you' and expressing all kinds of emotion and those kinds of things. It might just not be the way they are wired. It doesn't mean that they don't love you. It doesn't mean they don't care. It doesn't mean they don't have deep feelings. It just means that's not the way they communicate.

Another trait I call money matters and it really has to do with is one person the saver and the other person is spender. Does one person have a financial plan and has their retirement planned out by the time they are 30 years old and the other person is just, "Well, you can't take it with you, so you might as well spend it now.

" We all know that money can cause huge friction in relationships. So, the more you know what's your partner's wiring is around money and the more you understand that they may or may not be different from you. You will have a heads up going into the relationship around what may cause you friction and hopefully, you will be able to deal with it better.

The last trait I call sensuality and it really has to do with different levels of libido, how much someone needs physical touch in their life versus someone else feeling like you might be invading their space. Someone might be really cuddly, touchy, feely and the other person might need to have more well space. They might need to be lower on that. Again, it doesn't mean that the person who is lower on the touchy, feely or the sensuality it doesn't mean that they don't love you. It just means they have a different way of expressing it. So, with all of these characteristics, values, traits the more you can really begin to know your partner and know where they are hopefully, you will then be able to understand them because what we are talking about here with flying in low visibility.

Low visibility is when you don't understand your partner. You might say, "Oh, yes. Well, I can predict that they are going to do this and that and I can predict that they are going to get angry or upset at this.

" Well, fine. You know them, but do you understand them? When you can truly read the instrument panel, when you know their traits, you know their values, you know their personality, you know their love language then you begin to really understand them and then you can read the instrument panel and you can fly through those low visibility times in your relationships when you do have different points of views on things and when you don't agree on how to spend money or whatever it might be. Maybe you don't agree on how you should deal with an ageing parent but if you can understand where your partner is coming from, how they are wired you will be able to fly through those low visibility times.