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How to Balance a Relationship with Work and Friends
Is lack of balance more of an issue for people in committed love relationships than others?
Is it normal to devote more time to a new love relationship than to one's work and friendships?
Should we expect our friends to understand that our new love interest is our first priority?
What are the most cited problem behaviors associated with this kind of imbalance?
What "formula" can I use to divide my time between work and friends and a relationship?
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Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including; The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Woman's Day, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men's Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), People, and Nirvana magazines. She has been featured on abcnews.com, discovery.health.com, aolnews.com, MSN.com, Match.com and planetearthradio.com. Toni is also the featured relationship coach in “The Business And Practice Of Coaching,” (published by Norton, September 2005); and is the author of the forward for,” Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time” ( published by Simon and Schuster, November 2005). Toni offers dating and relationship help and advice through her syndicated column, "Dear Dating Coach," and her popular monthly newsletter, "The Art of Intimacy." From March 2005 until December 2005, she was a weekly contributing commentator (love and dating coach) on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.
Is this imbalance something that will take care of itself over time?
Host: Is this imbalance something that will take care of itself over time?
Toni Coleman: The problem with that line of thinking is that if you wait for that to happen, you could very well end up with no friendship. You are pouring yourself and in kind of expecting everybody else to just understand that this person is the most important thing and you just haven't got time for them now but when that relationship gets old then they will be waiting for you to kind of reconnect and it really doesn't work that way.
So yes, as the love relationship becomes more routine, more comfortable then there isn't going to be that same level of excitement, that same sort of sense of urgency.
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Host: Is this imbalance something that will take care of itself over time?
Toni Coleman: The problem with that line of thinking is that if you wait for that to happen, you could very well end up with no friendship. You are pouring yourself and in kind of expecting everybody else to just understand that this person is the most important thing and you just haven't got time for them now but when that relationship gets old then they will be waiting for you to kind of reconnect and it really doesn't work that way.
So yes, as the love relationship becomes more routine, more comfortable then there isn't going to be that same level of excitement, that same sort of sense of urgency. That all consuming feeling that one has and one first falls in love but and so life comes back to a more normal rhythm and there is going to be more desire to spend time with friends but as I said before it's going to be very important that while you are working through that those early stages of excitement and all encompassing a motion that you always remember that the friends are going, they have been there and they are going to continue to be there and you are going to want them in your life and to nurture those relationships at least a little bit.
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