Can I break up with someone by phone or email?

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Toni Coleman, MSW is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of http://www.consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including; The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Woman's Day, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men's Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), People, and Nirvana magazines. She has been featured on abcnews.com, discovery.health.com, aolnews.com, MSN.com, Match.com and planetearthradio.com. Toni is also the featured relationship coach in “The Business And Practice Of Coaching,” (published by Norton, September 2005); and is the author of the forward for,” Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time” ( published by Simon and Schuster, November 2005). Toni offers dating and relationship help and advice through her syndicated column, "Dear Dating Coach," and her popular monthly newsletter, "The Art of Intimacy." From March 2005 until December 2005, she was a weekly contributing commentator (love and dating coach) on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.

Can I break up with someone by phone or email?

 

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Host: Can I break-up with someone by phone or email?

Toni Coleman: Again, if this is a relationship where you have been dating for a while, the idea of breaking up even though people tell me all the time that this is how they get broken up with. The idea of breaking-up with somebody by email or by phone just sounds like one of those, I don't care about your feelings. I don't want to hear what you have to say,. I just don't want to deal with it. It really feels that way and if you think about what that's like for the person who is being broken up with. This is going to be hard enough, but that sort of cancels out whatever was in this relationship and leaves somewhere the sense that there never was anything.

This person never really cared about them, that they are not even worth the time or the energy to sit down and really talk about what happened. It also just not allow them to get any sense of closure to ask any questions. So I would say that it's a very -- rude doesn't even really cover it. It's a very insensitive and actually cowardly way to end a relationship and males often get label this for ones they do this and they do it a certain percentage of the time, but women have also been known to take the easy way out and just send an email and be done with it.

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